3 Aug 2015

Gay Singapore man loses High Court divorce settlement

Singapore man, who is HIV positive, loses SGD 1.9million and unsupervised access to couple's triplets in judgement on Friday.

The couple, who have not been named to protect the children, had been married nineteen years. Together they ran a range of businesses including a piano shop and a spa. They had three triplets together through the use of IVF.

The fact that the man was gay came to light in early 2009, when the wife hired a private investigator to find out the reason for his late drunken nights. After admitting he was gay, the two partook in marriage counselling at which time the husband revealed he was HIV positive. The man's behaviour did not change and in 2010, the wife moved out and begun divorce proceedings soon after.

In the recent settlement, Justice Vinodh Coomaraswamy awarded the woman $1.9 million as her share of the matrimonial assets. It included assets worth some $770,000 under her name, 60 per cent of proceeds from the sale of their marital home in Sembawang and a property in Serangoon worth $1 million.

The woman was granted full custody of her children and her husband is allowed to see them for only two hours a week under supervision. Justice Coomaraswamy stated that the harsh terms were because the husband has, at least since 2008, demonstrated a very poor ability to make decisions even for his own welfare"

She cited the man's four-month jail term for possession of drugs, his promiscuous lifestyle, and the fact that he was HIV positive. Justice Coomaraswamy wrote that the man was also involved with a partner who leads a particularly "reckless and dissolute lifestyle," according to News Asia One.

The wife also claimed that she, and one of their children, was beaten by her husband.

The man is appealing the decision.