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30 Mar 2010

Ricky Martin comes out… finally

Pop singer and father to twin sons Ricky Martin declared publicly on his blog this week what he refused to discuss but was widely speculated for years: He is gay.

"I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man," Martin wrote in a blog posting on www.rickymartinmusic.com.

The Puerto Rican singer of hits such as "Livin' la Vida Loca," has long been the subject of speculation but has never publicly commented about his sexuality.

The 38-year-old who became a father to twin sons via a surrogate in 2008 wrote in his blog post dated Mar 29: "This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids were born with."

In his posting, he said a few months ago he had decided to write a memoir and doing so brought him closer to what he called "an amazing turning point in my life."

"Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And this is something worth celebrating," he wrote.

Martin said he decided years ago to not share "my entire truth" with the world because people he loved warned him that "everything you've built will collapse."

"Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage," he wrote. "Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions."

"Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen five or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment."

“These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn't even know existed."

The singer began his career with boy band Menudo and broke out as a solo artist and teen idol in the 1990s in Spanish-speaking countries.

He released his first, English-language album in 1999, the self-titled Ricky Martin, which saw two major hits, "Livin' la Vida Loca" and "She's All I Ever Had." 

In 2002, Martin established the Ricky Martin Foundation to advocate for the well -being of children around the globe in critical areas such as social justice, education, health, and to seek the elimination of human trafficking especially children.

The English version of his post titled “En los últimos meses me di a la tarea de escribir mis memorias”:

A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And this is something worth celebrating.

For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that's the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It's my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don't ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I'm at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I'm feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.

Many people told me: "Ricky it's not important", "it's not worth it", "all the years you've worked and everything you've built will collapse", "many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature". Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.

If someone asked me today, "Ricky, what are you afraid of?" I would answer "the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war...child slavery, terrorism...the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith." But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.

These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn't even know existed.

What will happen from now on? It doesn't matter. I can only focus on what's happening to me in this moment. The word "happiness" takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.

I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.


Reader's Comments

1. 2010-03-30 12:19  
Who? What? Did anyone know?
2. 2010-03-30 12:52  
Oh my! At last!! hahaha!
3. 2010-03-30 12:56  
yay~~~ my baybee ricky is finally out
4. 2010-03-30 12:58  
*coughz* I don't think anyone's surprised Ricky... lolz :D
5. 2010-03-30 12:58  
Ricky, I'm with you. You bangs
6. 2010-03-30 12:59  
Now we can finally get married!! :-) Oh I'm so happy! I'm gonna be the father of two beautiful boys!
7. 2010-03-30 13:02  
good luck , ricky, happy that you are a grown up man...finally!
btw, you have 2 beautiful children!
8. 2010-03-30 13:06  
Good on him.
9. 2010-03-30 13:15  
I like HIM
10. 2010-03-30 13:26  
He kept insisting to me his name was Rico.
11. 2010-03-30 13:27  
Yeayyyyyyyyyy...Im so proud of him... At last, he's out from being indenial! He'll be LGBT Pop Icon.... Cheerios!! ;-)
12. 2010-03-30 13:28  
13. 2010-03-30 13:30  
I already knew since 90's haha
this part of article's title 'finally' it's so funny haha
Comment edited on 2010-03-30 13:41:53
14. 2010-03-30 13:43  
He bangs, he bangs.
15. 2010-03-30 13:57  
this is the worst kept secret in history. in any case, well done, i'm sure it was a long and hard process for him due to being a latino star.
16. 2010-03-30 14:00  
yeah he does.. hmmm i knew it already since i saw his ass on stage..hehehe
17. 2010-03-30 14:12  
Old news. But he's so damn fine.
18. 2010-03-30 14:27  
you did the great job before and do now.
best wishes for you Ricky.
19. 2010-03-30 14:39  
Wonder if it was hard for Mario Lopez when Ricky finally did it?
20. 2010-03-30 14:41  
He bangs he bangs :D
21. 2010-03-30 15:19  
Frankly, I'd put him back in.
22. 2010-03-30 15:26  
Dear .. Ricky ... i really proud to u ... please enjoying yr life to going on :)) God Bless U :))
23. 2010-03-30 15:30  
Good for him!!
24. 2010-03-30 15:44  
Very filled with love and light and he will make a profound difference with his expression of his truth.
25. 2010-03-30 15:54  
At last, a sequel to 'West Side Story' !
Whao !!!
26. 2010-03-30 16:08  
good on him but lets not go over board..... we will know that we have really progressed when the reaction to this sort of "news" is "so what"
27. 2010-03-30 16:10  
It takes a lots of pride to come out to the public , glad that he felt it was time to .. Cute kids
28. 2010-03-30 16:12  
yes babys look cute too
29. 2010-03-30 16:23  
LOL yes Ricky we know
30. 2010-03-30 16:29  
i thought news is something we didn't know already? yawn....

ok ricky, now go back to your cave coz u r not interesting anymore...moving on...next! who? ryan seacrest?
31. 2010-03-30 16:41  
I love you more after this
32. 2010-03-30 16:42  
theres nothing wrong of being honest....
33. 2010-03-30 16:50  
it's good to know that each day...one's true self is set free...
34. 2010-03-30 17:01  
that's nothing new to know :P
35. 2010-03-30 17:08  
When he was in Sg and met him personally, I felt that he is gay. My gaydar is accurate :)

Way to go Ricky!!
36. 2010-03-30 17:11  
oh..Yeah..that's great...I felt he is gay long time ago.......
37. 2010-03-30 17:17  
Old news. God bless ur babies :)
38. 2010-03-30 17:26  
I've already known it for ages. Difference is whether public or not, everyone knows =D He's a hot gay!
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40. 2010-03-30 17:30  
41. 2010-03-30 17:31  
I love RICKI que guapo , alfin carino ...
42. 2010-03-30 17:33  
lol @ #6
well good for Ricky, obviously he wanted to make this statement, though i'd have the same respect for him as an artist and human being if he never did...we're in a (predominantly) straight world, and i fully understand any misgivings he might have had over the years to come out to the entire planet.
43. 2010-03-30 17:44  
44. 2010-03-30 17:46  
Good for him and good for us ...God always blesses us ...
45. 2010-03-30 17:53  
Is that suppose to be news?? LOL
46. 2010-03-30 17:54  
"This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now."

hmmm not sure if I agree with that statement Ricky. That weight on your shoulders, the "fear and insecurity" could have been lifted years ago. All those secret rendezvous with men and healthy relationships forfeited. For someone so talented I really don't think it would have made a difference to your career.
47. 2010-03-30 17:59  
my gaydar need maintenace
48. 2010-03-30 18:16  
Congrats! Matters such as this, do it when you feel right, not when it feels right to others. Ultimately it is a personal experience and so it should be a personal calling. Again, congratulations!
Comment edited on 2010-03-30 18:17:57
49. 2010-03-30 18:22  
I love Ricky!!!
everyone already sensed but...
he did it at last!!!
oh my
50. 2010-03-30 18:32  
Who's next? Madonna's cat? lol
51. 2010-03-30 18:56  
on that day...
When you decided to shake your butt like there is no tomorrow on stage...
We know that you are gay!
We are proud of you Ricky!!!!
52. 2010-03-30 19:00  
Great Ricky! We love you so much..
53. 2010-03-30 19:05  
I like Ricky all the while, and glad that he has came out~!
54. 2010-03-30 19:30  
Another hot guy came out......
55. 2010-03-30 19:58  
Congratulations!!! Welcome to our Society! :P

Enjoy your Stay Ricky Martin.. ♥
56. 2010-03-30 20:00  
57. 2010-03-30 20:06  
ok, we applaud for u....
58. 2010-03-30 20:14  
i thought he already out...is that new?
59. 2010-03-30 20:18  
Im the only one who didnt know!!
60. 2010-03-30 20:29  
You are my star!!!
61. 2010-03-30 20:35  
He is no longer famous like he was before, coming out of the closet? what's the big deal?
62. 2010-03-30 20:40  
WoW...my idol already came out.
Who is next? thinking..... me?
63. 2010-03-30 20:46  
go, go, go... ale ale ale Ricky!!
64. 2010-03-30 20:55  
i would like to thank Ricky. i respect his courage.
i believe his coming out means a lot, and it will contribute to reduce prejudice against gay people.
it would be nice to hear him sing songs about fatherly love.
65. 2010-03-30 21:00  
Good for him....cheers =)
66. 2010-03-30 21:17  
go ricky now u can livin da vida loca... lets hope tom cruise, chef wan and the others are soon to follow!
67. 2010-03-30 21:19  
whatever who you are , just proud of yourself.....................
68. 2010-03-30 21:34  
Ricky, a real man.
69. 2010-03-30 21:41  
A real man!
70. 2010-03-30 21:52  
hmmm, is he top or bottom?
he bang he bang

salute u Ricky
Comment edited on 2010-03-30 21:57:05
71. 2010-03-30 21:56  
The best coming out story I've heard...

How graceful :)
72. 2010-03-30 22:14  
Ricky you are on the way toward hell !!!!!!
73. 2010-03-30 22:36  
Wake up, smell the coffee and FOLLOW THE MONEY you dizzy queens. He's got a BOOK soon to be released and a new musical tour to promote. His butt cheeks, like his career, have been sagging for almost a decade. This is a PR stunt worth its weight in gold...and don't tell me his agent isn't in Hollywood peddling the movie rights as we speak. It's ALL about the CASH!
74. 2010-03-30 22:49  
Glad for your courage to come out. Proud of you.
75. 2010-03-30 23:03  
i know u are homosexual since i was a kid... be proud.
76. 2010-03-30 23:03  
i know u are homosexual since i was a kid... be proud.
77. 2010-03-30 23:12  
though a little too late to confess as we have already knew he's gay years ago (I'm not surprised), we still love him and his songs. :)
Comment #78 was deleted by its author on 2010-05-05 10:34
79. 2010-03-30 23:26  
I'm very proud of Ricky Martin of coming out. I remember back in the 90's when he was on that American Soap Opera "General Hospital". Madonna would be very proud when she hears about this. She did a duet with Ricky Martin on his first english album. The song is called "Be Careful". I would be very happy for Ricky when he makes a huge come back:)
Dan L. "Fierce Wild Tiger" Wilson
Comment #80 was deleted by its author on 2010-03-30 23:31
81. 2010-03-30 23:32  
Congrats for RM, I'm sure he's happier now by opening up :).
82. 2010-03-30 23:32  
Ricky you BANG!!! i am glad that you came out because this shows the world that you are a role model as a gay man to society in the positive way, this is what we gay people need in this society so the world can respect us more and accept us one day to get marry and adopt kids. Your foundation is a great thing already what you have been doing for others in need. Your talent and your music as well of course. I have always been your fan and i wish you the best and lets hope that this is another stone to make the brick that we are looking for, legalize gay marriage all over the world. You are a good role model and not to be ashamed of who you are. God bless you always.
83. 2010-03-30 23:35  
What !? OMG!?
84. 2010-03-30 23:55  
Im so proud of him. Love him.
85. 2010-03-30 23:55  
He was the last one to know... but good he came out, he can be happy now!!!
86. 2010-03-30 23:55  
He was the last one to know... but good he came out, he can be happy now!!!
87. 2010-03-31 00:12  
haiz.... pls think twice b4 action. how ur kids face public ????
88. 2010-03-31 00:16  
WOO !!! =DD

Congratz Man =]

U the MAN!! hahaha
89. 2010-03-31 00:20  
i knew that...~!~... when he sang this song-- No Estamos Solos--- with Eros Ramazzotti

hmm he was sexy..
90. 2010-03-31 00:32  
Im not impressed, nor will he be a gay icon. He lied for many years..and he is a republican who worked on George Bush campain, and THAT is unforgivable!!
91. 2010-03-31 00:48  
No one is surprised at all Ricky. If this "coming out" thing is just a way of bringing your career back, I will be absolutely devastated. There won't be any difference if u did it 5 or 10 years ago, as you are a talented artist. it's sad but I will not buy this.
92. 2010-03-31 01:13  
It is a news, the way he is confessing. He is Finally Out. Glad to hear directly from the person.
But it is not shocking anyway. Some people already knows. LoL.
93. 2010-03-31 01:14  
I am happy for Ricky!! One more HOT guy in gay world :D
94. 2010-03-31 01:39  
omg i m so happy that he is also gay!sexy ricky! XD
Glad that one more gay successful star is gay! :P
95. 2010-03-31 02:09  
Long overdue!
96. 2010-03-31 02:11  
I've known since your gesture speaks "Q'' and Your aura is Pink ;)
Gesture n Body language can't lie , They speak that He is totally "one"
97. 2010-03-31 02:32  
wow.. at last ya. can I be the aunt, ops I mean uncle of your sons? they are so adorable :)
98. 2010-03-31 03:29  
Ya era tiempo de hacerlo.
99. 2010-03-31 03:45  
"We will know that we have really progressed when the reaction to this sort of "news" is "so what""

Well, I can tell you that the reaction in Ireland today was a resounding: "And? So what?"

The Public here found the whole fuss to be rather amusing. Then again, although Ireland is hardly a gay oasis of acceptance, homosexuality is not any issue here any more - for example, last Friday night, Westlife were on Irish TV's biggest programme, with its gay member being congratulated on being engaged to his BF (who, in the pic that was flashed up on screen, is a hot young blonde guy, by the way). When you get a large studio audience - largely made up of traditional country farmers and elderly people and Mammies and priests and all sorts of respectable, ordinary people - applauding a gay guy on being engaged to another man, it's pretty much a sign that being gay is very much a 'So What' thing in Ireland now.

My point? Hope other people reading this Aside here can get to that stage too, in their lives, countries, societies and cultures, so that you don't 'need' some kind of faded pop star to help pave the way....
100. 2010-03-31 05:34  
He's my kind of dilf.
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102. 2010-03-31 06:10  
Yawn... Who cares. I can't believe this can becomes news. It's Fridae website after all, what can you expect! Blah...
103. 2010-03-31 06:53  
Ricky Martin! Gay? I'm shocked. Who would ever have guessed?
104. 2010-03-31 07:48  
I am glad he chose to "come out", rather than to be "outed" by other.
I had never given any thought or question if he is a homosexual or a heterosexual, I have more important things to be curious about. That being said, now that we know he is gay, he is pretty darn handsome.
105. 2010-03-31 07:55  
he doesn't have to, coz everybody's already known it for years
106. 2010-03-31 07:56  
It's not so much about us knowing whether he's gay, it's more so of him coming to terms with it.
107. 2010-03-31 08:07  
Ya,finally~but you have to admit, he's like insanely HOT~
108. 2010-03-31 08:49  
"acceptance has to come from within".....so true but so hard
109. 2010-03-31 08:51  
It is s shame. I have looked at some of the comments here, and I think we gays are our worst critics.

We should celebrate support whenever anyone takes the courage to "come out", and not judge them for timing. We do not know what someone's life is like unless we live it.

Why must we be such bitches at times? Congrats Ricky, you did it your way and that is great!!!
110. 2010-03-31 08:57  
I liked his response to the question before coming out:

'You can fantasize about me any way you like.'

I've used it occasionally myself.

Personally, I think he, like many others, would have found it easier to come out if people (both gay and straight) didn't care whether he was gay or not. The 'one of us' or 'one of them' mentality isn't helpful and it should be his music that matters, not who he sleeps with.
111. 2010-03-31 09:30  
yayyyyy!! cheers to Ricky!
112. 2010-03-31 09:37  
great, but not new :)
113. 2010-03-31 10:01  
Congrats with him, i think he is for a long time ...
114. 2010-03-31 10:32  
hello idol ricky.im very proud of you and appreciate you so much..god bless you and you take care always...
115. 2010-03-31 11:08  
me love you long time
116. 2010-03-31 11:51  
ricky............. the wold is waithing for you dont west it me and my friend all are jest side you
117. 2010-03-31 12:02  
Good on him for coming out. If only I had the guts to do so. If I were in his situation, being famous and successful and all, I'll surely come out.

All the best for Ricky Martin, his kids and his really handsome man! :D
118. 2010-03-31 12:57  
Good for him!
Wishes for the babies!
119. 2010-03-31 13:16  
love u, Ricky :-)
120. 2010-03-31 14:37  
I knew all the way..all these years!!
121. 2010-03-31 14:53  
He eventually woke up. Nothing is worse than being shamed of who you are. Be fag be proud! Don't be sad, Be gay.
122. 2010-03-31 15:23  
No straight men would shake their "bon bon"
123. 2010-03-31 17:02  

YEAH! No one believed he was straight any way we all knew it. On the net there was always stuff saying he was homosexual some really funny caricatures too, now I hardly applaud his 'coming out' he built his career under the supposed cloak of heterosexuality (while fooling few no doubt) like Elton John came out in kinder times after 'making it' so why applaud them it's no big deal, the real heroes are those living their lives 'out' every day in ordinary jobs living with authenticity amongst their fellow citizens with less of the protections given to the wealthy or celebrities, he is a cutie though I wish he makes a professional come back
124. 2010-03-31 19:37  
I think it is a good thing for the gay community that people like Ricky delay the "announcement" for a while, for whatever reason.

It's good for others to see such people first as musicians, actors, sportsmen, parents, and all these things that they are, without just focussing on the "dirty fag" aspect.

And then, when these people finally come out, they can continue to be viewed, without too much fuss, as talented musicians, responsible fathers, etc. who "also happen to be gay, by the way".

Had Ricky come out up-front years ago, he would now be "that perverted fagboy who has just produced kids through unnatural sex and who also pretends to sing".

People are free to come out as early as they wish, certainly. But it also helps to have some of the "delayed" type, especially among the celebrity class, to condition the public to focus on the "whole person" aspect and realize that the "gay" bit is just one aspect of the person, not the only one.
125. 2010-03-31 21:52  
I often wonder how gay man make babies.
126. 2010-03-31 23:25  
thats a good truth, wonder if he knows n join fridae as well... if u do RM plz add me as ur fans
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128. 2010-04-01 01:31  
Well, duh~! I bet half the world thought "Shake your Bon Bon" was about women too...! Clueless, clueless people....
129. 2010-04-01 09:32  
important is that he chose to be happy
and proud of it;)
Comment edited on 2010-04-01 09:37:58
130. 2010-04-01 09:46  
wow, he is such a hot daddy... I gonna have to arrange a play date with my twins and his twins

anyway, coming out is so easy

but getting the twins up and ready for kindergarten in the morning with well packed lunches and off in nice clothes and smiles is real work and then I have to be on time for my own presentation at work

kudos to the Ricky and his kids, Gay Dads Rock!

131. 2010-04-01 09:47  
why doesn;t singapore have any asian cool day dads? what r u guys waiting for?
132. 2010-04-01 11:32  
hmmm its like saying...what else is new?
133. 2010-04-01 17:03  
good for you...but I have more pressing issues...party with this "news" later...
134. 2010-04-02 11:07  
What else is new?
135. 2010-04-04 18:20  
people act as if this isn't new news and yet lots of people keep pressing on certain closeted public figures to come out, they do this for themselves and i'm sure it's very liberating to them to set the record straight. bravo ricky and those who will be joining him in the public eyes for being gay men. it's very inspiring and courageous. way to go!
136. 2010-04-05 14:23  
its no rocket science to figure Ricky is gay...lolz
137. 2010-04-09 22:49  
why have so many people felt his being gay for a long time?
Gaydar or something?
138. 2010-04-15 18:32  
not a big deal..
139. 2010-05-23 12:12  
he it's Awesome
140. 2012-12-27 02:23  
it's great... i'm feeling wanna get a child too :)

it's will be amazing,, :)

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