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20 Jun 2007

not sure whether 'ex-gay' exists: alan chambers, president of exodus international

Alan Chambers, the head of Exodus International, believed to be the world's largest ministry for former gays, no longer believes the term "ex-gay" is appropriate to describe those who have undergone religious reparative therapy to be "set free" from homosexuality.

According to The Los Angeles Times, Alan Chambers was quoted as saying that the term ex-gay as being too neat. "By no means would we ever say change can be sudden or complete," said the man who now identifies as straight and is a husband and father of two after having conquered his attraction to men.

Alan Chambers, the head of Exodus International, appeared in an ex-gay ad with his wife which read: ''I Questioned Homosexuality. By finding my way out of a gay identity, I found the love of my life in the process. Gay marriage would only have blinded me to such an incredible joy.''
Chambers and other Exodus leaders who will attend the group's Freedom Conference at California's Concordia University later this month, are said to be discussing the possibility of a biological basis for homosexuality.

Rev R Albert Mohler Jr, regarded as a leading conservative theologian outside the ex-gay movement, shocked many of his constituents by saying in a statement: "We should not be surprised (to find a genetic basis for sexual orientation)."

The LA Times report also quoted Michael Bussee, who founded Exodus International in 1976 but now regularly speaks out against ex-gay therapies.

"Something's happening. And I think it's very positive," said Bussee, who fell in love with a fellow ex-gay counselor after founding Exodus. Now a licensed family therapist, he is 'willing to acknowledge potential in therapy that does not promise change but instead offers patients help in managing their desires and modifying their behaviour to match their religious values - even if that means a life of celibacy,' reads the article.

He is scheduled to address the Ex-Gay Survivor's Conference at the University of California Irvine at the end of the month.

Dr Robert Spitzer, whose 2001 study has been commonly misused by reparative therapy advocates to support their cause, said: "What appeals to me is that it moves away from the total polarization (common in the field)."

"For many years, mental health professionals have taken the view that since homosexuality is not a mental disorder, any attempt to change sexual orientation is unwise," said Spitzer, of Columbia University.

Some therapies are considered dangerous, and some rely on discredited psychological theories. "But for health care professionals to tell someone they don't have the right to make an effort to bring their actions into harmony with their values is hubris," Spitzer said. He is also noted for advocating the removal of homosexuality from the American Psychiatric Association's (APA) list of medical disorders in 1973.

In May, the APA announced that it had appointed a Task Force of researchers and clinicians to review the current scientific research on therapeutic response to sexual orientation with an eye toward updating the Association's 1997 policy statement on the topic.

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3. 2007-06-20 23:05  
Quote: "managing their desires and modifying their behaviour to match their religious values". Yuck yuck yuck how wrong can they get it and what more proof do we need that (most) religions are evil?
4. 2007-06-21 00:18  
I guess maybe if you are "ex-gay" it probably means that you are bisexual("i used to like men but now i like women") or gay-in-denial (celibacy option).

Either way, if its your free choice to be who you are, realize your full human potential as whoever you are, more power to you.

Just know that no one is perfectly straight or perfectly gay...even if a person is 99.99% straight means he's 0.01% gay.
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6. 2007-06-21 06:05  
"Ex-Gay Survivor's Conference"

... I can understand if it was a tsunami, war or genocide survivor's conference, but an ex-gay survivor's conference!?!?!?

Where do these people get their ideas from???????????
7. 2007-06-21 10:04  
I totally agree with Magdelene.

A human is not stereotypically formed, unless my Science lecturer taught me wrongly. However, I'd still love to hear further testimonials from this therapy.
8. 2007-06-21 10:42  
Look at the chaos in the world today, most stem from religious groups, so what religious values r they talking about? Since when does being gay = patients? These ppl r just f**king with our brains!

As long as we don't harm another human being (unless u're talking about kinks...hehehe...), or 殺人放火, I guess that's my moral values.
9. 2007-06-21 10:55  
It is really impossible to change your sexual orientation. You are who you are and you are what you are. That's what I always believe. You can't change a straight person gay, nor you can do otherwise. If that is the case; you are living in a world of denials. Think again; a gay man lived his life and grow up with it and suddenly.. poof! he determines to change. That change can be very sudden, and can result in depression, and I can guarantee, gay people who claimed themselves to be straight; they cannot run from the fact that every day they will be thinking of one man or more. They're just telling themselves; no... no.. I wanna get a wife :-)
10. 2007-06-21 12:31  
don't agree with this ex-gay crap at all... not one bit... we're all gay.. just a matter of guts to accept it...
11. 2007-06-21 14:24  
Magdelene is right- those so-called 'ex-gays" are actually bisexuals- even then,who is to predict they will NEVER fall for a person of the same sex years down the road??? Personally i find it pretty amusing that they (those 'ex-gays") can 'change their stance' as easily as changing their underwear...good ethics, no???
I'll just watch fr the sidelines n see what nice drama they can come up with...for my personal entertainment. *wicked grin**
12. 2007-06-21 21:11  

We are who we are and to think of it, no one influences anyone to being true to their sexuality! For those who wants to revert the natural process are only in denial and confused of their own identity. Sadly religion is brought in yet again to underline matters which are logical to solve.

To the people who don't drink from the fairy cup anymore good on you, but i know each night you wish you could turn back the time!!!!!
13. 2007-06-21 23:06  
Looking at Chamber in the photo, he is still so gay.... My gosh, this is so fake. What a pity that you have to force yourself to sleep with your wife. The people that believe in Exodus are blinded by his acting.

Open your eyes! Why do you choose to believe lies than truth. What is wrong being our true-self? What is wrong being gay?

I guess the homophobia comes from the sub-concious mind of the heterosexual. Religion is only being used as an execuse. Is homophobia also in the gene as well??? I'm just so curious...
14. 2007-06-21 23:07  
I for one would love to meet one ex-straight . . . for a change at least. Maybe on Mars and in a different life-time. Ex-gay indeed . . . that's one UP where the sun don't shine and a mind not only get fucked brutally but fried sunny-side up then scrambled. What a joke for all man kind!
15. 2007-06-22 00:31  
Ohhh denying denial. In my opinion, there is no such thing as an 'ex-gay'. Reforming gays? Please, what it does is only lead them down further a trail of depression.

'Reformed' ones will discreetly do 'things' behind their regular session therapies or religious group meets. That is already cheating your ownself and downright contradictory. Because deep inside, that person is gay but applying great deal of mental pressure to keep it down.
16. 2007-06-22 18:16  
To turn the tables...would you stop any of your gay friends if he suddenly said : Hey, I realized I am straight! I'm going to start dating women...
17. 2007-07-16 00:30  
magdelene, if that is the case, then you need to LET GO and forgive the ex-gay who hurt you. pray for the ex-gay. maybe he will get 'itchy' after 7 years and when he comes back to dating men, embrace him and receive him as a BI friend or ex-ex-gay friend.

we need to learn to be accepting, aren't we?

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