From a young age, in our fairytales and favourite movies, we're generally conditioned to long for the day when we meet our Prince Charming.
Although we know it's a heteronormative Hollywood construct, it's hard to ignore that deep-seated aspiration to meet Mr Right, the perfect man, a knight in shining armour to rescue us from single life.
Sometimes, it's difficult not to feel that we're just stuck in a tower, waiting for our great romantic adventure to begin.
Obviously, for queer guys, that damsel-in-distress fantasy is a bit complicated. Exactly who are we expecting to rescue us? Who will fulfil our fantasy and sweep us off our feet?
There's also a big difference between fairytale notions of romance and the day-to-day realities of dating as a queer guy. There's no shortage of men out there. There's no shortage of guys looking for fun or a quick connection. But you don't often come across guys who are looking for a second date, let alone a prince or a knight in shining armour.
You could make an argument that we've created a vicious cycle for ourselves, born of our own insecurities. Many queer guys struggle with low self-esteem and social anxiety. In that context, one-off transactional sex carries less risks. If there's no emotional investment required, we're not as vulnerable - we're not as likely to get hurt. Being romantic is a different ball-game. Letting someone know that you're interested in something more can feel like a terrifying proposition.
There's nothing easy about dating men, but maybe we should challenge some of our assumptions about what we're looking for in a relationship. The concept of Mr Right is fairly meaningless. Whether you have one date or you see each other for a couple of months or you end up living together - you can't measure your relationship against anything other than what's right for you.
Also, being in a relationship in no way makes you more complete or more succesful than someone who is single. We all make different choices.
None of need to be longing for a Mr Right to somehow magically complete us. We can be the hero of our own story. We can write our own narrative.
It's time to grab the crown and be the Prince Charming that you've been dreaming of.