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mingsheng

Honesty

mingsheng - 32 minutes ago

I feel I'm responsible for my own honesty for...people (in general). I feel more comfortable to be straightforward. These days working with a colleague at my workplace whom I've increasingly recognised as "ingenuine", "insincere", that led me to appreciate more the truthfulness and sincerity between 2 human beings contact.

I'm simply not the type that love faking my emotions. It's exhausting and meaningless. My body language can't lie. When I don't like you, I just can't pretend to be like friend with you. I treat people genuinely, no hidden agenda (something that that colleague seems to be like), which I feel really just disgusted at the way he behaves.

I don't think I want a friend like that. Frustrated.

Never mind. Make myself a hot drink. Sit down and write quietly. And then sleep before another long toil tomorrow! 

Thank God tomorrow I won't have to work with him. Hate the superficial and fake.

greenlab

greenlab - 41 minutes ago

Its pointless for me alone to try salvage frezship with u...if u dun wish to...i wont force myself to get into ur life anymore...i haf tried hard enough...hereby i can say i sincerely 祝福你。爱一个人不一定要拥有。只是想说我是真的爱过你。Thanks for the happy memories tat you haf given me..

pos4life

Medical Review

pos4life - 5 hours ago

Recently went for my review, all in all in a healthy range. CD4 alrrady hit 500+ and start on another type of medication cost $60 cheaper than previously. 

Next review in next year,and promise my consultant to lower my cholesterol level. Well, am keeping that as my goal.

meanmin

No Game Plan

meanmin - 10 hours ago

Don't you just hate it when people play games? 

One step forward, one step back. 

Constantly marching on the same spot. 

Self-protect versus open-heartedness 

Constantly marching on the same spot. 

LOL. 

I know you think you are God's gift to women but really aren't we all in our own ways? 

I am going to think how I think. Deal with it. 

I am going to be who I am. I can only be myself. 

I am going to head this way or that. It's my decision to make. 

When it is blatantly clear there is an objective in mind, I cannot always get lost in the equation.

Bulldoze much? 

I compromise only not to meet more compromise and growth but to meet more demands. 

Be this way, think that way, feel this way, go that way. 

I start to see things so clearly it hurts.

I start to redraw from empathy and wake up to reality. 

The pieces refuses to fit no matter how much you lie to yourself. 

True confidence lays in the ability to accept others without the need to change them. 
Especially without the need to change them to feed your fragile ego. 
Love? Do you even know what love is? 
I am the one? The one to what? To shove around, to change to suit you, to help you heal? I mean, really? 
Not the one to love, to hold and to treasure? 
You constantly stand in the sidelines as an oberver and not a participant. Like as if this ain't your life too but my own playing out for you. 
I may give you the benefit of the doubt in the beginning but you have convinced me with your contradictions that I am not the one for you, you are not the one for me.
 
I just don't buy into this warped version of love where I always have to be more vulnerable and you always need to have the upper hand. 
Where does that get you anyway? It's all a tad strange to me. 
The problem with self-protecting too much is that you end up emptier than you started and the cycle continues. 
The problem with being in control is that love is out of anyone's control. Or it would be called logic, no? 
Have you really loved at all? 
That is the question. 

 

Charlie13

What happened to all the lesbian bars in Singapore???

Charlie13 - 12 hours ago

In the few years that I've been away, they've all closed down... :(

asiankiwi

Destiny..?

asiankiwi - 13 hours ago

 

Today I read on my friend’s facebook page a blog that suggested that sometimes things just happened.  That everyone will eventually meet this special someone whom you have travelled the world to look for only to realize the person is next to you all along.  That as though, through some cosmic joke or cosmic relief you find her, the one you seek, the perfect personality to match your imperfect fissures.

 

I find that an interesting read and coincided rightly with another article that I read a while back.  This other article is more spiritual which suggested that our life path is already set.  Someone up or down there has already chalked up our path the day we were born.  Some called it faith, others called it preordained destiny whilst more others scoffed at this idea by yelling on their soap box that “I CONTROL MY OWN LIFE!”

 

I have no issues with my life being written the moment I was born.  To have your life written about is better than having your life written off.   Now I didn’t use to be like this, I used to be one of the person who yelled “I CONTROL MY OWN LIFE!”  the idea that your life is set, that every decision you made is really not by free will, the idea that someone up or down there already know exactly where your decisions will lead you scared the heck out of me.  Being a control freak, such a notion is beyond comprehension. 

 

That said, many things had changed since then.  Many things led me to understand that life is indeed already set.  That everything happened for a reason.  Please know that while the reasons are currently murky, sometimes completely incomprehensible whilst sometimes completely perplexing and heartbreaking, at the end of the day we would achieve this sense of clarity.  This happened to me.  The first time it happened to me was during my first devastating heart break, my ex decided to go with someone younger and brought me into this trance of soreness that I no longer remembered.  But through the same devastation I learnt that I deserved better than her, that I deserved better.  Of course, being younger then, I didn’t fully comprehend this notion of “everything happened for a reason.”

 

7 years down the line, older and probably not as mature as I hoped myself to be, heart break happened to me yet again.  This time the devastation was different yet the same.  Whereas my ex and I had a connection and she always held a sense of compassion for me, this other person who broke my heart was flat out.. cold.  The coldness, until today, sent chills down my spine.  It was probably just who she is, of which, now, with a clear mindset, I can understand and empathize.  I wasn’t a logical person when I was so profoundly in love with her, stripped of the rationale that I usually process and benevolence that I so preached about.   I don’t blame her ridding of me from her life (though I once did, playing the sad injured victim).  Infact it is probably the same thing I would have done had someone bothered me this way.  Of course, these are all said in hindsight.   After I was surgically removed like a malignant tumour, I stumbled my way into another path.  A path, that, had you asked me 2 years ago, I would have scoffed and laughed and poured you another glass of wine.   That path not only led me back to lucidity but also brought back magnanimity into my life.  I am now sheltered with love once again even if it wasn’t in a relationship sense, but I no longer need this ideals of relationship to make me feel whole again.

 

If you asked me if I would change anything towards this particular choice (of falling for her), I would tell you, with confidence, that I won’t.  I don’t mind falling in love with this person that would eventually cause me devastation, she is, in all aspect, a brilliant person of which I had the honour to know albeit being a very short time.  Through her, I learnt of myself.  Through her, I became a better person.  At least that is my interpretation of it.  I am in a very good place now, I can write again, I have time to think again, meditation became a daily service to my mind and soul.   I believed she came into my life for a reason, and despite being in hell for nearly 6 months, the reason is so clear to me now. 

 

I believe that there is someone out there, who might be imperfectly perfect.  She might already exist in my life and I am currently too obtuse to see it, or she might yet to materialize her wonderful essence to me.  I don’t mind waiting, I had waited through heart aches and sadness.  I don’t mind waiting.  Do you? 

 

Today, as you waddle through this path of sorrow, this path where you felt misled and misunderstood.. don’t worry, you are not alone.  But in time, perhaps a long time, you would understand that everything happened for a reason.  You just need to believe.  You need to have faith.

 

I am rushing a bit so didn’t really have time to edit, my sincere apologies for my wordy preachy blog lol.

 

Pu_erile

I made a booboo...

Pu_erile - 22 hours ago

He sent me a message saying he's unable to come for gym and the reason.  I went all upset especially seeing an instagram pic he likes about giving up.  He gave me a warning and everything becoms awkward again.

 

Note to self:  Remember to enjoy the NOW.

If most relationship fails because of loss of attraction, how do you make yourself attractive to your lover again?

Ling1977

A Place with Good Food and Nice Music

Ling1977 - 22 hours ago

I just have a good time with my relatives at Healy Mac's Irish Bar & Restaurant in Ipoh. It is a good place with good food and nice live musical performance. I especially liked the French fries that were crispy and not too oily. I will recommend the place to my friends who like good food and nice music.

fatbird

Living in the moment

fatbird - 22 hours ago

There are so many changes happening in my life at this current moment that I do not know where to attribute my joy or sadness to.

For over a month, I took time off work and put my new flat together, spending days painting the entire of it all myself. It isn't easy, given that I'm somewhat a perfectionist. But as the days pass, I begin to see that when the flat starts to fill up with stuff, it doesn't really matter which spots I might have missed, or how badly the varnish appears on the parquet floor. The wall is a wall, the floor is a floor, a kitchen cabinet is a kitchen cabinet. One can't attach more value to these fixtures in a house than what they really are.

As I moved in, the flat begins to be filled with memories. At times, we bring those along from other places, like the old flat, the old neighborhood, the old lifestyles and habits that were all associated with a living environment that we had gotten use to. It is then that I realised how attached I was with the old flat that I was not very fond of in the first place. How strange attachments make us feel sometimes.

Settling into the new flat would certainly take some time, maybe a lot of time. Yet it won't happen if I keep comparing the old flat and the new. I have to live in the now, the present, and create new memories so that the new home will take shape.

At work, a few colleagues and I were talking about how important it is to live in the now moments. To achieve that, it's not just about shutting out the past, or place less significance to where we have come from. Rather, it is about focusing on what we are doing here and now. This poses a challenge to many modern-day people, including myself.

Taking a train is not really taking a train, but it's taking a train plus watching a video on the ipad and texting someone on your smartphone. A walk from point A to point B is not just a walk, but walking and texting or walking and watching a video on the smartphone at the same time. So what exactly are we doing at this moment. There are so many activities that can be squeezed into one tiny moment.

So this flat, it is my home now. New memories will be created, and I will grow attach to it eventually. But I won't know for sure, as it is a cultivation in itself to learn to really live in the moment and enjoy every bit of it.

 

meanmin

Too Honest

meanmin - 1 day ago

Is there such a thing as too honest? 

You would like to feel you can tell your partner anything. 

Where honest doesn't impede but liberate. 

But you forget build trust first and have some fun in the process. 

There is a degree of subtle affection that gets lost in the midst of honesty that someone doesn't want to hear. 

I got to wonder if someone pushes a topic too far, is it a way to push you away. A way to self-protect, a way not to open her heart. 

Despite good intentions, there is a reason why you don't call someone fat, you exercise with her, get her interested in sports, you get her excited about options. 

There is a reason why you don't change someone but you expose them to different adventures and let them choose what works for them.

I like, even appreciate honesty as a bridge to self improvement but I can't accept pushy behaviour. 

Too much honesty leaves me no wiggle room for free will. 

Everyone wants their partner or object of affection to think the world of them. To dream that you are precious and wonderful to her. Not that you are flawless but you are perfect in your imperfections. 

Accept first, build trust and then you can be honest with delicacy. 

 

winky_golf

Worthiness

winky_golf - 1 day ago

Knowing when to walk away is WISDOM

Being able to is COURAGE

Walking away with your head held high is DIGNITY

When you know your worth, no one can make you feel worthless.

Rac99

Self~

Rac99 - 1 day ago

some people will like you for no reason

some people will not like you for no reason

who you choose to spend the most time

thoughts and effort on depend on exactly how much love ourself

by just staying near to people who treat you poorly

you are telling them it's OK to do so

only keep people closed to you who treat you well

@rachel lim~

princesszz

(5) I Have the Right to Choose

princesszz - 1 day ago

 

GOD DOES NOT CONDEMN YOU


This is what free will is Christians: 

God made you to be His perfect bride, but you choose to defile your body. At Judgement Day, you are going to stand before God, the white dress He had given you at birth, stained with the blood of sexual impurity, abortion, murder.

God gave you the gift of speech, but you choose to blaspheme and curse instead of praising and glorifying God. 

God gave you the gift of time, but you choose to spend it watching mindless media and spreading lies about others instead of spending quiet time with God in prayer. He made 24 hours in a day specially for you, but you won't even give him 5 minutes of His time.

God gave you talents so that you can feed the poor, educate the orphans, save your fellow Christian brothers and sisters who are being persecuted, tortured, beheaded everyday in the Middle East. You choose instead, to spend your money on junk that only serves to attract the wrong kind of people into your life. People who care only about how you look and what you have, rather than about you yourself. People who use you, and leave you when you have nothing more to give.


“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

“Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’

(Matthew 25: 34-36, 41-43)

Which side are you on?

Know this, Christians: God gave you free will because he loves you. Perfect love is love that is being reciprocated. But by your choices, you have definitively rejected God and all that He represents; everything that is good, everything that is beautuful, everything pure.

 

And that is how, by your free will, you have condemned yourself.

 


meanmin

Fats

meanmin - 1 day ago

Yeah she called me fat. Gave me a huge lecture on why don't I want to look good. 

And I laughed. 

I laughed because who doesn't want to look good. 

I laughed because our body changes drastically over the years. 

I laughed because I rather be healthier than look better. 

I laughed because I rather feed my mind and soul than feed my looks. 

I laughed because the very definition of good varies from person to person. 

I laughed because she dared to call me out. 

I laughed because looks ain't everything. People grow old, people get fat. 

Yeah sure, you want someone who you are physically attracted to, someone you just want to touch all the time. 

I laughed because it's my body, not yours. 

I laughed because you are a control freak......yes you. 

I laughed because I can lose weight for myself, not you. 

I laughed because even the prettiest girl will bore me if she has no substance.

I laughed because please take Q no. 

ling87

ling87 - 1 day ago

A trustworthy witness does not deceive, but a false witness spews lies.

Say she is dumb is really one special kind of dumb.

 

freezelotus

Rose

freezelotus - 1 day ago
When the nights have been too lonely,
and the road has been too long,
and you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed that with the sun's love
In the spring, becomes the rose
MichSoh

:'( h u r t

MichSoh - 1 day ago

I don't need someone that sees what's good about me.

I need someone that sees the bad, and still wants me.

 

It's painful to say goodbye to someone you don't want to let go.

But it's more painful to ask someone to stay when you know they want to leave.

 

It hurts so bad when people acted like they cared about you

soulseeking

Love is....

soulseeking - 1 day ago

Love is patient. Love is kind. It is not envious, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13

soulseeking

Love is....

soulseeking - 1 day ago

Love is patient. Love is kind. It is not envious, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13

Pu_erile

Berries and Cocoa (chocolate)

Pu_erile - 2 days ago

If we have a cafe I think that's a decent name for our cafe.  If you know what I mean.

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