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Mahayana

Hidden gem

Mahayana - 6 hours ago

was having a meal at Bedok North hawker centre and realized the wet market flower auntie sells a great variety of flowers. From roses to sunflowers to lilies, and even fake flowers. Amazing what you can find in the market. 

greyish

ever get crazy

greyish - 8 hours ago

ya..get crazy.

ever get crazy coz of some one...since long long time ago...and for long too.

but no more long after that. 

just ..worth not.

Chalkncheese

Dispensable

Chalkncheese - 20 hours ago

It is amazing when you start to let go of things. 

Letting go is tough. It's sometimes not just letting go of a person, but a habit, a safety net, or even memories.

The idea that you will be left alone can be scary at first.

Humans are such creatures of habits but also our high level of being adaptive (which likely explains our non extinction) allows us to move on fast, once the mind wins.

I didn't think my healing process will be that short. It had been a long ride, I figured it will take me a while to get down from the high.

Surprising, when you decided to be grounded, the day to day is actually easy.

That is probably why they say, everybody is dispensable. 

Carie1123

Acknowledgment

Carie1123 - 23 hours ago

We all need to acknowledge our mistakes/problems/issues.

With that “acknowledgment”, we take action to correct it.

Mostly people misunderstand that they do not need to change for anyone/anything and just want to be themselves.

Of course we are meant to be ourselves but it is the bad attitude and bad views that we need to change.

I’ve acknowledged my problems but still trying to fight the feelings. As rationality does not sync with emotion. Still working on it~~ 

We have to acknowledge the motive to find relationships. Some will fall in love easily and eager to get into a relationship. But can we cope it? Are we mature enough to handle a relationship? A relationship can be simple but can be complicated too, in a way.
It is not only about spending time together. It is the guidance for each other, giving freedom for each other, respects each other’s financial, build better things for each other and compromise.

We wonder how some parents do it and find that is because they have a target. They aim for the better life FOR each other. Solid base, solid financial for the kids, for themselves and future. And all of this they do it TOGETHER. All because of maturity and acknowledgement that truth and fact is they have to plan for FUTURE together. There is no time for lies, story making to cover own ass etc, all this immaturity does not exists as their aim is something SOLID that will lasts. And they know lies and story makings will never last, it is always poison in the relationship.

How many of us really notice a true love from parents or someone until they passed away or leave? Parents guidance for their kids, how they scold and yell at us. Have we notice it is due to them wanting us to change our habits/attitude so that we make it better in society, at work, etc so that we have stable base and future. How many of us, still wants and hopes the best for our exes eventhough you know that you will not be in their future, you will not be the one that walk with them. You still push and hope the best for their future gf even if that thought is painful for you. 

I acknowledge that I have high expectations for my relationship. I want my partner to be THE ONE that can guide me and lead us to a solid and stable relationship.

Although my past relationships mostly lasts bout 7-8yrs but that is not enough for me as I guess they could not be the one to guide me and give a solid, stable relationship. With solid and stable base, we can see the future and that is the sweetness of it.

I acknowledge that at the moment I am not capable of handling a relationship (not emotionally ready, not mature enough..etc), so I am only looking for more friends. 

If in future I fall in love, I aim for “marriage” type of relationship that is solid and stable. Meantime, I will prepare myself, my base, my everything so that i am ready and can cope with my ideal partner ^_^

AshleyJo

If You Could See Me Now.

AshleyJo - 1 day ago

 

As i was doing tasks planning in my calendar, i was once again being reminded that God has betta foresights than me. Clearly. But sometimes i forget. There are times when i think i may be smarter than Him and convince myself that something i wanted at the moment is the best for me and when it didn't happen, i felt gutted. Now that the cold day is drawing near, it then occurs to me that the smarter one has planned for things to pan out they way they did, so that i could prepare myself for the day and to focus. Wistfully & Coldly. 

I never like strawberries but the strawberry dessert prepared by Y will always leave me with that familiar taste. Not so much on my tongue but in my heart for the surrogate love she's been giving me. And now i would actually ask for the strawberry dessert each time she cooks for me. Because it takes away that coldness in my heart whenever i eat it.  

The roses came but they took you away. Tattooed on my arm is a charm to disarm all the harm. I'm trying to do you proud, do everything you did. If you could see me now, would you recognise me? Would you pat me on the back or would you criticise me? Would you follow every line on my tear-stained face, put your hand on my heart that was cold on the day you were taken away? 


 

I know it's been awhile but i can see you clear as day. I still look for your face in the crowd. When i see my face in the mirror, we look so alike it makes me shiver. If you could see me now, i'm just missing you now. I hope you're up there with God saying....that's my kid. So if you get a second to look down on me now, i'm just missing you.......perpetually. 


Onedarer

Inertia

Onedarer - 1 day ago

Sometimes, we are just too tired to care about anything. 

 

TM0298

meeting

TM0298 - 1 day ago

In the meeting today, my boss wore black dress, with her right arm covered by a red scarf, leaving the thin left arm barely exposed in the air. Wandering in thoughts opposite of her, I could not help but started to follow my eye-sight which crawled upon her left arm from the bottom upward. Without control, my mind dashed in the air. The untamed me was slightly licking her arm upward..

TM0298

what if

TM0298 - 1 day ago

What if you fell in love in your boss? Having somebody on your mind is annoying enough lately, and it seems you re not her cup of tea and, what's worse is, there's  no sign showing you fit with each other. But the fact is you need to work with her. 

Attraction is a weird thing. I can't tell why I am attracted by her that much. Have I ever fallen in love in my boss? Yes, there was once, but not that strong in feeling. And she never popped up on my mind so often. 

This is so annoying to find her charm sucking my brain from time to time.

joeron

Stale

joeron - 1 day ago

Apple pie: think I've gotten stale

Cheesecake: not stale, just bland

Apple pie: should I sprinkle cinnamon powder on myself?

Cheesecake: that's nice! add some cardamom too.

Sporty87

我的日記201507-08

Sporty87 - 1 day ago

20150830 22:00   罪孽
最近跟“玄衛”談到他有不少朋友也不願意生育小孩子的話題,我笑著在數落小孩子的缺點:花錢、勞神、激氣、反叛、頑皮、鬥氣、嘈吵、擔心、難教難養等等,如果長大後是不孝的,更加可以說是一項虧蝕得血本無歸的投資。
數落過後再細想,
其實以現時的社會甚至整個世界的環境和風氣,根本不適合再帶小孩子到這個世上,好像嫌自己還受不夠苦似的,還要帶自己的骨肉到這個世界來一起受苦,我不禁疑惑,多增加一個人受苦,這算不算是一種罪孽?
聽過很多人說過老人家就等同小孩子,但是最感到奇怪的是,很多時候甘願自找麻煩的去生育小孩子,卻對養育自己成人的老人家置之不理,或者這就是自願與非自願的關係吧!

最近在街上巧遇“
A&B”,談到身材高佔優的話題。或許對於明星、模特兒、某些運動項目的運動員和直男來說,身高絕對是一種優勢,不過在同志圈來說,身高從來也沒有特別的優勢,更大機會是一種障礙,因為大多同志都是偏愛肉壯型,當一個人身材較高,雖然不算瘦,但始終在視覺上還是被拉長了,一個180始終不及一個170來得肉壯,這就是大多同志為何不愛高的原因了。

昨晚跟“肥仔”途經一個
Lego的展覽便駐足看看,突然“肥仔”嚷著:「哇!那個女人的胸很大!」,我還在左顧右盼的問:「哪裡?」,他便指著站在遊艇上的那個小Lego女人了。仔細一看,她的胸又真的大得很,而且衣著也超級火辣,基本上只以一條黑絲帶來遮住上圍兩點而已。原來不只場景,那些小Lego人的身材也做得那麼細緻,玲瓏浮突呢!不知小朋友看到,會不會問起呢!哈哈!


最近遇到了今年辰震撼心靈的神曲:杭蓋樂隊〈輪迴〉,而內地歌手
譚維維 的翻唱版本,雖然以國語唱出少了一份靈氣,但在演繹上卻非常出色;同場還唱出了深情動人的〈三十歲的女人〉。








20150816 22:00   
再一次感動
或者是今年的夏天特別熱的關係,所以踏入了暑假以來,反而游泳少了,以致在水中的狀態都持續低迷。
昨天難得的是一個雨天的週末,水溫總算下降了一點,在水中不禁在想,以現時低迷的狀態,很難會有什麼好成績出現了,心中便定下目標
1200-1500米自由泳了。快到1500米時,身體已快累得游不下去了,不過心中卻希望可以像以往的力勉狂瀾,就這麼一拚便拚出本年度第七個2000米自由泳了,對上一次已是接近三個月前的事了,今次這個2000米自由泳實在是比以往任何一次也艱難得多,除了累之外也再一次感受到那種艱辛拚出來的感動。

星期五晚跟“肥仔”去看了他嚷著要去看的《特務型戰》,為的當然是看他認為的帥哥“超人”
Henry Cavill 吧!對於我來說,可能是之前在另一套電影中看到他的腿比手臂還幼,扣了很多分呢!我反而比較喜歡飾演蘇聯特務的 Armie Hammer196的身高再加上一個古典又冷傲的造型,將你置於安全與不安之間,哈哈!
至於電影方面,劇情有趣過癮,也應歸功於眾演員的出色演出,特別是飾演女奸角的
Elizabeth Debicki

昨晚跟“肥仔”去看了頗期待的《進擊的巨人》,我沒有看過漫畫,只是從“肥仔”及其他人口中得知畫功不佳但故事不錯。正式看了電影版,第一個出場的如“人體奧妙展”的那個巨人真的很有霸氣,至於其他的就真的感到很嘔心,很想跳進去將他們斬殺!電影的氣氛沒有太過營造出巨人出場時的恐懼,最後那個從男主角異變出來的巨人,造型如死神一樣很有霸氣,但在擊殺其他巨人時則不夠威勢,應該是一拳或一腳便可擊碎那些嘔心的巨人才算是痛快吧!哈哈!


最近我最愛的
 許茹芸 參加了《蒙面歌王》,她翻唱了一樣是我最愛的林憶蓮《為你我愛冷風吹》,如果厲害的是將一首舊歌改頭換面翻唱後,就像變成了屬於自己的全新歌曲;那麼更厲害的是,不作太大改動,只是用自己獨有的聲音,便輕易將這首舊歌就像變成了屬於自己的歌曲一樣。她所演唱的版本沒有太大的改動,只是用她輕輕的聲音唱著,滲出淡淡的憂傷。20年前林憶蓮 帶來了感動,今天那種感動由她再一次帶來了。
 

 



20150802 22:00   
生與死
昨晚跟“肥仔”去看了《職業特工隊:叛逆帝國》,感覺上今集沒上集那麼刺激,不過整體動作場面尚算豐富,或者就是沒有超高難度動作場面,反而拍得像007的美版。


踏入不惑之年後又快過了一年,一年前還在想踏入不惑之年後希望會變得更好,一年過去,我只可以說這真的是其中一個最不快的一年。
最近在思考生與死的問題,究竟人生存在世上的意義是什麼?為了夢想?為了考取功名?為了爭權奪利?為了尋覓最愛?為了結婚生子,開枝散葉?為了生活舒適?為了報恩?為了安享晚年?為了名流青史?不過無論什麼意義,重點是人生就算再多精彩再多成功,最終所有人也逃不過撒手塵寰。
既然是逃不過,那麼究竟人們那麼努力去尋找人生意義又為了什麼?要向誰交待?還是要對得起自己?但是當自己彌留之際,這些自以為有意義的東西還重要嗎?
既然人生的結局已註定,若然人生的意志被命運磨滅得鬥志盡失,何不由自己選擇提早走到結局?或者這也不是真的是由自己選擇,而是早已註定了。
正如那些爭取「安樂死」的病患者,每年每月每天每時每分每秒都受著不同的折磨,要他們再支撐下去的意義又為了什麼?為了彰顯那份永不放棄的精神?為了那些來自並非親身經歷的人的安慰和鼓勵?或者對於那些病患者來說,在他們身上的痛苦早已掩沒了一切,所以他們寧願選擇提早走到人生註定的結局。
 



20150726 22:00   
曼妙
前晚自己一個去看了《兒凶第三回》,這是第一集的前傳,也不知是電影本身的氣氛營造得很不錯,或是坐在旁邊那班小伙子又要怕又要看的行為,還是自己的年紀大了心血少了的原因,真的感到很驚嚇呢!

昨晚跟“肥仔”去看了《巨揪舞壯士》,跟第一集相比真的是相差太遠,印象中第一集是勁舞連場,而這一集則是講多過跳,部份劇情顯得沉悶之餘,也有一種湊數標尾會的感覺。


這兩天買了兩張一新一舊的,也是翻唱的專輯:
第一張是一直也引頸以待的王韻壹《被遺忘的時光》,終於等到她發片了,她是我在《中國好聲音》中最喜愛的聲音,專輯風格當然是她最拿手也是我最喜愛的爵士樂吧!

當看到專輯曲目,她竟然很勇敢的翻唱了多首基本上很難被超越的超級名曲,不過看過她詮釋歌曲的功力,令我更想聽聽這些名曲的爵士版是怎麼樣子的。
其中一首是我很喜愛的
 許茹芸 經典金曲〈如果雲知道〉,如果原版是流水行雲的曼妙飄逸,那麼這個爵士版就是沉郁醇美的曼妙魅惑。
另外,也翻唱了兩首沒可能被超越的老歌:第一首是
 鄧麗君〈獨上西樓〉,鄧的是清雅沉鬱,而王的是淺醉忘憂,同是在西樓,卻各有一番滋味在心頭。第二首是 蔡琴〈被遺忘的時光〉,我認為她跟蔡的聲音是同類的,如美酒一樣,年份不同而已。
至於她的成名作〈愛情〉,是次她以一種較輕鬆活潑佻皮的感覺改編了,但我還是喜歡她在《中國好聲音》那深情演繹,也比較適合這首歌曲的意境。
第二張是一張舊專輯
 關淑怡《EX All Times Favourites》的K2HD版,與 王菲《菲靡靡之音》是公認最經典的華語翻唱專輯。這張專輯之前也推出了編號版和沒有編號版,雖然是日本製造但也沒有日本版的側標的,不過最近卻看到竟然推出了有側標的日本版,雖然我很想擁有這張專輯的原版日本版,不過二手價動輒也要2000元以上,所以退而求其次好了。




20150712 22:00   
原來的地方
電腦終於修理好了!幸好我沒有那種沒了電腦就像世界末日似的想法,反而好像有點落得清靜似的,不過我的潛意識不禁反問:「你還不夠清靜嗎?」

最近跟“肥仔”去看了《末來戰士:創世智能》,這個系列我應該是每集也有看的,最深刻印象應該是第二集的“水銀人”吧!其餘的也沒很大的印象呢!不過可以肯定的是,這是最有喜劇感的一集了。
今集看來是這個系列的大結局,不過這種穿越時空的故事,也可以說是一個永不會結束的故事。


最近突然在網上看到
 萬芳 將到香港開演唱會的報導,對於我這個還會買她唱片的人,而且“肥仔”也很喜歡她,沒可能不去看吧!不過看了票價,以“肥仔”現時的工作狀況,再想想最近我的身體上種種不適所致的燒錢程度,本想給“肥仔”一個驚喜的念頭也打消了。我不禁在想,很多時候驚喜都是奢侈的,所以富有的人不會也不應再怨什麼了。
前天上班中,正在打算買票在星期六晚一個人去看《鬼驅人》之際,突然收到“肥
W”問我要不要萬芳演唱會的免費票,我當然二話不說的要了,真的十分感謝他呢!
昨晚帶著最初還被矇在鼓裡的“肥仔”去看了《萬芳原來的地方
2015演唱會(香港站)》,或者是她近年不論是唱歌還是舞台劇,也一直保持著演出狀態的關係,所以與其他同資歷的歌手來說,聲線可以保持之餘,甚至比以前更好。

一反傳統的是,到了中段便已將她的名曲〈猜心〉、〈試著了解〉、〈割愛〉、〈新不了情〉等都唱了,或者此舉想考驗一下聽眾的耐性吧!
對於“肥仔”來說,他是蠻高興的,因為她唱了他很喜愛的〈溫哥華悲傷一號〉和〈
Fly Away〉,可惜的是她沒唱我很喜愛的〈不換〉和〈那夜〉。
一個歌者的成功,可能除了聲線、技巧、感情和耳熟能詳的金曲外,最重要是她的歌曲能帶你回到那個原來的地方。
 

Carie1123

For all exes

Carie1123 - 1 day ago

I believe many people experienced this. Their exes contacting back just to hint that they have new relationship. Some even go further by finding ways to show off their new girl to their ex. 

Please dont do that to your exes. You get nothing doing so. Each relationship is great due to both ppl effort and each that breaks are due to both failures ( in some way).

Each of us take that responsibility of that failure and make a change for the sake of each other to build a better future (if there is still chance). If no longer have chance, continue to proceed to make that change but for ownself and for future partner..DO NOT go back to hurt your ex just to show off. They dun mind staying single to recuperate so dont go bug their life, dont have to proof to your ex you can find someone fast etc. No need for that. (some people are revengeful but they dont realize).

If you guys contact each other because u still love each other, then is fine. And do something about it.  But if you feel is too late and u cannot stay to love anymore, then just go in peace with the new girl that "appears and make ur life better"..go in peaceeeeeeeee...if you have not get the new gurl and still "waiting" for her answer, then you wait in peace. dont contact your ex at your "waiting" process.

If ur excuse of contacting them is because u treat them as fren,think again. U truly care for them as a fren? After your breakup, they might have still help u solve your issue without even knowing whether those are truth or not. But after that, u bothered to know how their life is?u ever ask and care? what help did you offer them after they told you they have face some problem and need your help? Did you ignore their plea and did not help? After all these thoughts you still have same excuse to say you contact your ex because you treat them as friend or u contact ur ex only because you want to tell them bout ur life. 

Please...give time apart (LONG time)..after MANY YEARS, if both have gf of their own but still can stay frens with their exes then fine..otherwise, dun make that excuse..(look around you and be truthful, how many still stay in contact with their exes??) especially if u know ur ex could/might still have feelings for you. 
Some ppl might keep some information away from their ex so that their ex could keep some hope and stick around. 

Cut the string if u already courting someone new and cannot turn back. Cut the string!! 

Chalkncheese

Buzzkill

Chalkncheese - 1 day ago

 

A friend insisted that I join her for an adult colouring session..

First thought ?

Colouring ? Like kids colouring ?

What kind of pictures ? What kind of colour pencils will they giveme ? Can I bring my own ?

Can I bring back the picture ? What if my work turns out ugly, will they laugh at me ? 

I made myself nervous for no reason...for days...

But a promise is a promise so I went, rather unwillingly..

It's a simple concept, pick a picture, pick a seat, start colouring..

Thinking is good, over thinking kills the buzz..

In this world that we are in, we are constantly advised to plan ahead, have visions, have dreams, work towards our dreams..

But sometimes, our dreams are fairly simple, our overthinking of things made it all seem so difficult. 

Perhaps, once in a while, unburden all the unnecessary thoughts and do what the heart says..

Life should and would be so much more fun.

 

Onedarer

Nothing can ever be certain

Onedarer - 2 days ago

Having spent more time with her, my heart has started to feel more settled. But I'm not oblivious to the possibility that her relationship is not quite over. We are certainly thriving in murky waters. Will this relationship with her see a breakthrough? Perhaps it's best not to think about it. 

Once I read a book about how all of us are liars to some extent. The ability to lie is innate in human beings. Sometimes we lie to others, or we tell white lies, sometimes we lie to ourselves. Like what a friend of mine says: "the truth hurts", so many of us would rather lie to ourselves and keep ourselves safe in a perpetuate state of denial. 

I don't know about others, but truth works best for me. At this stage, I can only focus on my feelings towards her and the time we share together. Anything can change tomorrow. As nothing is ever certain, the best I can do now is keep the faith and treasure all the now moments. 

Ling1977

Bersih 4: LGBT activists join demonstration

Ling1977 - 2 days ago

I attended the grand finale of the Bersih 4.0 last night, and there were still many people turned up. Places near Masjid Jamek and Dataran Merdeka were extremely congested. Yet the event went well and ended peacefully.

Earlier, I also noticed that a few LGBT activists waved the rainbow flag in front of the Masjid Jamek LRT station, making their presence known at the Bersih 4.0 rally. I truly salute to them for having the courage to come out and to openly support Bersih's demands for free and fair elections!

Here's The Star's coverage on the presence of the LGBT activists at the rally:

Bersih 4: LGBT activists join demonstration (The Star Online)

Source of image: The Star Online

Source of the image: The Star Online (http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Nation/2015/08/30/bersih-4-lgbt/)

 

KUALA LUMPUR:  A few lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) members are making their presence known at the Bersih 4 rally.

"We wave our flag to tell people that the LGBT community supports Bersih 4," said LGBT advocate Chong Yee Shan.

"We also want to let everyone at the rally know that the LGBT community are around and joining the rally just like you, and with you," she said.

"We want to let people know that there's nothing bad about the rainbow flag," she added.

Chong said that the LGBT community doesn’t want to be the "elephants in the room" that people ignore.

For the full text of the news article, see: http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Nation/2015/08/30/bersih-4-lgbt/

 

KarmaKofe

Tashi and the Monk (Documentary)

KarmaKofe - 2 days ago

Tashi and the Monk 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NaHNkKVNnXo#action=share

thequeen

Talking Cars

thequeen - 2 days ago

Last Tuesday I met my friends R, M and L for shisha. We were talking about the dilemma of modern parenthood and a tourist who was sitting a table away couldn't help but join us. He has two young children and lives in Silicon Valley.

The topic was about whether parents are too protective of their children and if we should just deprive certain things from them to make them stronger. 

"We as parents are your simple everyman Toyotas. But all of us want our kids to grow up to be the best... to be a Ferrari. We want to give them the best, because the question that haunts us everyday is: Have I done my best as a parent? When they come home with a C, we would start asking ourselves if we have done enough; did we get them the best tutor? Did we put them in the right school?"

"As parents we are often stuck between giving our children what they should have in order to survive in the future, and giving them the chance to unleash their potential in their passions. Let's say, your son is not interested in becoming a lawyer or doctor... he wants to be a musician. Twenty years later, he is busking in the subway underpass. Whether he is happy or not, that's not the question. But as a parent, we can't help but feel heartbroken: were we at fault for letting him pursue his dreams in music? Would a Toyota be happy to see that his son ends up becoming not even a Toyota but a BMX bicycle?"

"Today's schools are so competitive that it can be baffling. My ex schoolmate once ended up last in class... DESPITE SCORING A FOR ALL SUBJECTS. Just as we shaped and trained our kids to be a BMW... it turns out the world has evolved into an Mesarati."

We all agreed that the most important thing to teach the next generation was to be humble and be a good human being. To teach them that all the LV bags and Ferraris in the world does not buy them a pure heart.

I concluded the thought-provoking conversation with my own analogy:

ALWAYS AIM TO BE A FERRARI... BUT KEEP YOUR HEART AS A TOYOTA.

Work hard towards your dreams but keep even closer your humility and kindness.

 

😝

yeoh

疗伤

yeoh - 2 days ago

说没事,其实是再骗自己...说有事,其实自己想要怎样....

原来有些事情是会有那么巨大的后遗症.我能走过吗?我和你可以走过吗?

唯有时间可以证明一切...

需要重新整端位置,立场,等多方面....

ceciliacheung

hi

ceciliacheung - 2 days ago

 

 

PassionFruits

Hate

PassionFruits - 3 days ago

I was too blind to see that you were too deaf to hear me. 

AriaJes

痛之入骨

AriaJes - 3 days ago

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