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meanmin - 2 hours ago
I attended a wedding in the past where the couple had a long distance relationship for 10 years. Examples like these make me believe in the possiblities of love.
*cue cheesy music*
What is it that bonds 2 people so tightly together that they forget their immediate needs and focus on the one thing that has failed so many?
Long distance relationships require commitment and trust beyond conventional relationships. When you can't touch her face but see her on Skype. When the warmth of her body is held only in your memory. When you can't see her expression of sorrow and only hear the anger in her voice. When you feel limited when she is unwell and you can't even hand her water to soothe her throat, it's tough.
At the end of the day, you have to hold on to the best of each other and just believe despite all your experiences to the contrary, that love transcends, it conquers and it is limitless in its potential.
How beautiful is that?
Risk Big & Lose All
meanmin - 2 hours ago
At some point you have to take a leap of faith.
You have to open your heart to new oppotunities, new people and new experiences.
You take a fall, live and learn, move on gracefully.
People are going to disappoint you because we all have different expectations. It takes a million and one things to fall into place before the magic happens.
At the end of the day, to expect things to work out can be too much to ask. Just live in the moment, enjoy your time together and don't think too much. Just go. Just do. Just love
To hold on to self-worth can be difficult, we have all been there where we are jaded, hurt and vulnerable.
The right person will lift you up, try their darnest to never see you fall and will say sorry and mean it.
Feel thankful for all the supportive friends who break your fall, they make life a little easier.
想道歉嗎？「how to say sorry」
lhh79 - 6 hours ago
天秤女 characteristics in appearance
lhh79 - 6 hours ago
Jyne - 8 hours ago
do-ra-emon - 11 hours ago
Pray do not feign literacy in a futile attempt to contemptibly retort. Time and tide is not as forgiving to those perceived as an abomination of society.
ronlow - 12 hours ago
LOL. Maybe you don't understand what I wrote and need to ask your master what's the meaning and how to write proper sentences... Hahaha
Anyway, I understand that. Because you are just an unequivocally minuscule peon with sub-literate half-wit and a petty nose-picking aberration of nature.
(3) It Will Cost You EVERYTHING
princesszz - 12 hours ago
"If anyone of you wants to be my follower, you must deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow me." (Matthew 16:24)
(for those who has never experienced a truthful homily)
You must transfer the ownership of all that you are, and all that you have, to all that He is.
Your life is no longer your life; it is His life. Your time is no longer your time; it is His time. Your future is no longer your future; it is His future.
It will cost you popularity, it will cost you an easy life. You will have to say no to temptation, you will have to break with the crowd, you will have to stand alone for Christ. You will have to be willing to step out of the crowd even if no one follows after Jesus Christ. You will be willing to stand even if you are the only person in the world for Jesus Christ.
He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, and at the end of this age, He will bolt out of Heaven on a white steed, and His garments are dripped in the blood of His enemies, and he is coming to conquer and to damn!
You do not want to go into that final day of conflict with Christ, for he will be ruthless in the execution of His Justice. But He offers you His Mercy TODAY. You cannot hit the mute button any longer; you must answer to Him.
"Not everyone who calls out to me, 'Lord! Lord!' will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter. I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’” (Matthew 7:21, 23)
Christian, are you refusing God?
asiankiwi - 12 hours ago
I was talking to a friend a few days ago. She was having this “online” affair with a man for the last 4 months or so (yes, I do have straight friends lol). When things gotten too serious, she started to pull back because she started to see the potential issues. Distance, the fact that he only just broke up with his fiancé of 5 years, the fact that he didn’t actually have a stable job, the fact that he is pretty attractive and too many women were interested in him. With that she almost abruptly halted the “relationship” before he made his trip to visit her. Needless to say, things gotten a bit chaotic after that hasty end. The guy became needy, then angry and eventually iced cold and started flirting with anyone or anything that came across his way. She was, to my surprise, quite upset about his behavior. After thinking about it, I realized I was being callous too. She, of course, also developed some feelings for the man… but this is one of the times where love is sincerely not enough. She gotten quite wounded and shared her sorrow with me. One of the things she most upset about was that he moved on so quickly whereas she sincerely thought they could maintain a friendship.
That lines the basis of my topic today, “habit”. I once read in some psychology book (yes, I read… sometimes) that a habit takes 60 days to develop and break. Say smoking for example, you sort of can say you are addicted (and screwed) once you smoked for 60 days regardless of how inconsistent that was, and if you stopped smoking completely for same number of days, you pretty much broke the habit.
Love, or the promise of it, is also a type of habit. This is particularly true pertaining to online “relationship”. When you were promised the idea of love and you blindly fall into it, you developed this habit of saying “good morning..” this habit of sending the person anecdotes of your life, what you eat, what you are doing, where you are going, who you are meeting, selfies (ugh). The other person reciprocated with similar ideas. Sharing with you their daily schedule, what they are planning, who they are meeting and post meeting the laughter shared or about such person (GOSSIPS). You enjoyed these daily sharings, made you felt somewhat important in someone else’s life.
In my most dire moment (where I fall hopelessly in love with a girl, ahh yes, back to gayness) we talked from the moment we woke up until the moment we gone to bed. We shared EVERYTHING, typical boring mundane stuffs, we even talked about the movies we watched, what our dogs eat.. videos of our dogs even. It sounded boring but it felt like your world is somewhat occupied. That sense of belonging. When that ended, I was drowning, flailing in this pool of sorrow. We officially stopped communicating sometime in April (although my heart was already broken since November when she rejected me, but I irrationally held onto hope)… and by June (also with the discovery of yoga) I became better. Whereby once I tried “not” to think of her, literally taking one minute at a time on my awaken moments, she then haunted me in my dreams. I didn’t really minded the dreams to be honest, in my dreams we were connecting as before and that was almost euphoric (not what you think!). Then suddenly, all these thoughts and dreams of her just stopped. I can’t really explain it, I would chalk it down to “Yoga High” #itsarealthing. But in honesty (now that I read the psychological book) it was merely the break of a habit.
When we fall for someone, they essentially just became a habit. They became part of our life. Most of the time this was natural, we allowed them to become this habit and usually the signs are very subtle, you probably don’t even know it until it is too late. Like driving or always hanging out with the same group of friends or the idea of MUST go out on a Friday night, these were merely habits. The good news for those suffering from unrequited love is that habits can be broken. While habits are part of our life, it is merely cosmetics to our actual growth and cosmetics could easily be cleaned.
Perhaps (when I have time) I would write more about breaking or creating a habit. For now though, I shall leave you with a saying:-
“An over-indulgence of anything, even something as pure as water, can intoxicate.” Cris Jami.
161014 You asked whether I'm alright.
Pu_erile - 14 hours ago
It must been a torture to make a decision whether should you message me or not to check if I'm alright because you chose to do it just before you go to bed. I understand it. I appreciate you asking me.
For now, these are the things that matters - a lot.
Hope I get to see you tonight at the gym, my Tuxedo Kamen.
do-ra-emon - 16 hours ago
Wow...behold the pompous and ostentatious rhetorical discourse...yes yes the epiphany of newfound intellect. A deliberation of gratifying colloquy is underway. Exhilarating!
yihou - 17 hours ago
好久没和朋友们去酒吧玩了，十一那天心痒痒，本来在家准备淘宝购物的，打开网页正看着各种促销，朋友的电话打了进来，约我去酒吧 玩。我想想正好趁男朋友不在家，出去跟人玩玩，于是梳洗罢对镜贴花黄收拾的溜光水滑一本正经的回电话约时间地点。由于最近烟瘾比较大，于是特意喷了点新买 的香水搭配夏天时剩下的风油精和花露水，调和成独具一格的味道，穿上我的小夹克出门，到楼下雇了一个三蹦子，直奔我心驰神往的三岔口“戴斯特内肾”酒吧。
“好名字，我姓毕，叫毕博。很高兴认识你。”朋克头帅哥吐了口烟，半眯着那迷人的双眼，微笑得歪着头看着我，右手一抬胳膊，弹了弹中南海白烟蒂另一 端的烟灰，烟灰轻轻的飘下来，火星还没灭，在空中转了两个圈，轻打在地上，朋克头帅哥习惯性的伸出右脚，用白色匡威帆布鞋在烟灰上蹭了蹭，然后轻轻的收回 右脚。
我这人是特别谨慎的，尤其是在这现在这个社会，小心驶得万年船，从来不乱吃乱喝不了解情况的东西。连刚才毕博给我的烟，我都没抽，揣在我夹克的外兜 里了。这会儿举杯只是做做样子，我轻抿了一口，假装味道不对吐在地上，然后皱着眉对毕博说：“是不是做错了，有种葡萄糖酸钙口服液的味道，我只喜欢地道的 葡萄牙dry 马提尼。”毕博接过我的酒杯闻了闻，笑了笑放在了一边，说再给我要一杯。我说不用了，刚已经喝了不少老雪花，再喝就多了。于是自己点了一根烟，和他聊了一 会。原来朋克头刚从髮国留学回来，主修医学，辅修声乐，回国后跟几个朋友合伙做生意，走南闯北，小有成就了，只是烦于工作加上劳累奔波，一直没有认真谈过 恋爱，刚才从我万种风情的眼神中，寻觅到了初恋的感觉，于是下定决心不怕牺牲，主动上前和我相识，“我希望和你谈一场8小时的恋爱。”朋克头最后恬静的 说，用戴着江诗丹顿新款腕表的手腕拄着头，安静的看着我。
我俩按惯例从CCTV1到延边卫视换了一圈台，按惯例聊了聊彼此喜好，按惯例自己玩了一会自己的手机，于是我催促他按惯例去洗澡。卫生间传来哗哗的 水声，“我的大刀早已饥渴难耐了”——这是他手机铃声又响了。水声比较大，我估计他没听见，于是好奇心作祟，我自己都不知道怎么控制自己，拿起他的电话， 滑开键盘锁，看到他的微信，刚才正和别人聊天的对话记录。
“really? r u going to do it tonight?”（他微信里的好友）
“yeah, don’t worry. He is cut, I’ll do it ”（他）
“OK. Waiting for ur good news.”（他微信里的好友）
我立马心一惊：我草！虽说我上学时没好好学习，但是这点基本国际语言我还是懂的。我赶紧放下他的手机，点燃一根烟，狂抽三口。我一下回想起来前阵子 我朋友圈里有朋友说出去419的都要小心点，什么有一些外地口音的人流窜全国约面基开房下药然后割肾，第二天醒来发现自己躺在宾馆的浴缸里身上全是大冰块 子，犯罪分子留有一张纸条说什么赶紧打120你肾被割了之类的。我不禁倒吸一口凉气：he is cut. He is cut！！！看来这朋克头和他几个朋友约好了，今晚就要动手割了我，我混迹圈子这么久今晚竟然栽在几个削肾客的手里！怎么办，怪不得阿郎刚才告诉我不要随 便约，尼玛现在没得HIV肾竟然先丢了，难怪刚才在酒吧朋克头说他主修医学专业，原来是学会了割肾啊！幸好我小心翼翼没有喝下那杯dry 马提尼，否则现在肯定被下药了不省人事了。我越想越害怕，背后不禁冒出一身冷汗，这时水声没了，朋克头帅哥围着浴巾出来了，一脸暧昧的看着我，笑着对我 说：“下面轮到你啦！”
我于是故作镇定，心想，现今唯有以毒攻毒以暴制暴以硬碰硬，才有机会脱身，让他也知道我也是道儿上的，今晚是飞刀又见飞刀，大家都是同行，这样才能 和谐美满不伤和气。于是我掐了手中的烟，说到：“好的，下面轮到我洗澡了，你快到床上乖乖等我啊！”我脱下衣服裤子，走进卫生间的时候我优雅及故作不经意 的转过头，对床上的他问道：“对了哥们，你听说过安利么？”
不一会他给我回来消息：“贾思丁，对不起，you are so cut, I really want to have six with you.但是你为什么会那样，做个好人吧，我已经报警了，你有什么事等警察来了再说吧。”
Home is where the Heart is.
AshleyJo - 1 day ago
It's been a night of feeling pampered. Being treated so generously and being served so graciously. The patience to listen despite the fatigue while i happily indulged in eat, drink, talk was much appreciated. Truly relished the undeserving pampering.
But nothing beats what surprised me. And comforted me.
I didn't have the chance nor time to emote how i felt at the moment but i was touched to say the least. The thought of having a trusted confidante when visiting mum this sunday felt comforting.
And i'm brought back to that night on my way Home.
I couldn't remember any moment in my life when i felt that lost, when i failed to articulate to myself those emotions running thru my head. All i could muster when S's texts came in was to ask her for that funny video that made me laugh the first time she sent it to me. I was happy when i first received that self-made video. Things were different. I felt Hopeful. Mum felt Hopeful.
I guessed S was lost for words on that Hopeless night. All she could do at the moment was to accede to my request and sent me the video while i waited for godma to fetch me Home. I needed a chip of happy memory to numb my extreme sadness at that moment. I was desperate, desperate for something inconsequential to delude myself into thinking that perhaps when the video ended, i would wake up from just a bad dream.
The way back Home tonight is so different from the way back Home that night. Home, is never the same again. I will be Home this sunday.
Ling1977 - 1 day ago
The secret to looking young.
lostknight - 1 day ago
My secret is not smiling.
I've practiced it strictly since I was a kid and rationed my smiles whenever I could. Unfortunately, sometimes I get caught off guard by unexpected humor I found in certain things.
Laughter, sad to say, is like an uncontrollable wild beast. It's hard to fight laughter.
It's only with my strict low smile regime did I manage to keep crows feet at bay till this year. Without eye creams or botox.
I don't smoke cigarettes either. I find that it tastes like burnt paper. Which makes sense, because you're burning money, and money is made of paper right?
And if you're bestowed with facial proportions akin to an infant, you naturally get a few years discount on your true age.
If you see me looking bored with a long or black face, don't mind me. I'm practising my anti-aging regime.
lhh79 - 1 day ago
Have u ever come across a day, a time or even for a split second thinking...if only....
Yesterday in the midst of my busyness, i was caught off a minute thinking away of my once was long time ago best fren..
I was driving towards my meeting place, past by the bus stop where i used to daily wait for her, rain or shine, no complaints at all... i dun stay near her. But cos i love her, i will take a bus to her place the bus stop and wait for her so that we will go to school together. Those were the happiest and most carefree days of my life.
If only...if only time will stop there n then. If only i will to be more understanding n sensitive to her needs. If only i put myself in her shoes, knowing n feeling all her hurts. If only i will just not allow lust to blind my eyes n ears. If only i will to stop any other from breaking our 15yrs bond. If only i will not waver my trust n faith in her...if only if only if only...
Time have gone. There is no turning back. I have tried to reinstate our bond but she have told me she no longer have the heart n energy to be frens with me again. She cannot n will not wan to have any contact with me. Whenever i think of tis, it really tear my heart apart. She is my first love, my best fren, the woman who really understand me when no one did...
On my birthday, i always hope she will wish me or send me any regards...no, it doesnt happen. I still look forward to next year...perhaps she will remember me once again. I really miss u in my life...
LaVergne - 1 day ago
I was told she had a motive. I was told she stayed as a friend because she had a motive. I was told she is always there because she had a motive. I didn't believe. I trust our friendship.
We talked, we chat, we hang - I treasured that friendship.
My partners were insecure. My partners were jealous. I could not comprehend that insecurity and jealousy. We fought, we cried, we yelled without realising we digged such big hole in our relationship.
I stood by defending our friendship throughout the years. I no longer serve the purpose, I no longer hear from her. Inevitably, I realised that caused the failure of most of my relationships. She had a motive, they were insecure. I didn't have a friend in her except with a motive.
I am disappointed.
Both of them r selfish... poor
ku - 1 day ago
Sky96 - 1 day ago