Fridae

所谓了解，就是知道对方心灵最深的地方的痛处，痛在哪里。

I miss you when I think of you,everything which regarding to you.you are the only 1 who brought me lots of sweet and precious memories..The places the trip we travel before,the food we eat,the precious time which we did spent together fill with all the happiness,the people we met,the stories that we share with each other.All the happiness and the sadness stories between us,your family your career,everything..

I miss you when I read your msg,every single words that you said,every MSG which you sent it to me,especially your 'LoL' and 'Haha'.I miss you when we can talk to each other everyday without failed,send each msg everyday early morning without failed.The gifts which you bought for me.You brought me happiness all along..You brought me stay closer with our precious God father our savior,the 1st Easter drama which we went together.I miss you more and more when I listen to your favorite songs,all the songs which you like.

Everything happened before now only left me with memories.What thing come terrible than losing someone who we love..?Someone we cherish so so much,someone can make me put in all the efforts,someone can change another party from worse become better..There is nothing more important than this.

Although thing changed but..I do love you still..You are always in my heart..

There is no denial but to agree that simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

During a 50-minute workout on the stationary bike at the gym yesterday afternoon, i completed the reading of The Elegance of the Hedgehog. I wasn't expecting its tragic ending, which evoked in me an emotional response that wasn't quite congruent with the physical activity that I was partaking in.

I have mixed feelings about the novel. On the one hand, I applaud the idea that knowledge and appreciation for the arts are not exclusive to the upper rung of society, and that a concierge can be more knowledgeable and wiser about life than the rich and powerful. On the other hand, I can't really identify with the bitterness and negative thoughts that the narrators express towards the people around them. Do they have to be so judgemental about everybody else all the time? Must life be that perfect?

I am a positive thinker, and a literary work as bleak as an Edgar Allan Poe's short story is not really my taste. I believe that as much as we understand that life is not always beautiful, it doesn't have to be that way in a fictitious work. It is our imagined world that we escape to each day, that gives us comfort and hope in spite of all the sufferings in the world.

I'm moving on to a pulp fiction next...

 快樂之神為什麼總是擦身而過？因為有十件事會嚇跑它。

今天起，無需追逐，少做這些，快樂自會降臨！　　

1.責備　　事情出錯時，與其生氣的責備別人，自討苦吃，不如關注下次如何做得更好。　　

 2.做作　　沒有人會因為你的衣服、車、頭銜而真正喜歡你，這些只不過都是身外物。做真實的自己，真朋友才會走到身邊，帶來無限樂趣。　　

3.執著　　當害怕和缺乏安全感時，才會僅僅抓住一樣東西不放，才會過分執著於你所知道的一切，而這樣並不會帶給你真正的安全感。試著放手，向著你心所往的方向前進，即使不成功，嘗試的過程，也會讓你自我感覺更好，更快樂。　　

 4.打斷　　打斷別人沒有禮貌，而且會讓人不喜歡你。做一個傾聽者，關注別人說的話，多問問題理解別人，和諧交流會讓你更快樂。　　

 5.抱怨　　不停的抱怨各種問題，會讓你感覺更糟糕。與其浪費時間抱怨，不如想辦法改善。不論是和自己對話，還是和朋友或同事，少說做錯了什麼，多想想如何做的更好。　　

 6.控制　　不管你是老闆，還是小角色，你唯一能真正控制的其實只有你自己。與其拼命控制別人，讓壓力、恐懼和權威縈繞，不如尋找和你方向一致的人，或者給別人以引導，讓他們主動前進，這樣才會更努力，更有樂趣，更融洽的關係也會讓你更快樂。　　

7.批評　　受過更好的教育、經驗更豐富、爬過更多的山，吃過更多的鹽，這些並不會讓你更聰明、更優秀、更深刻，只不過讓你更加獨特而已。每個人都不同，有缺點也有優點，懂得欣賞這些不同，而不是抓住缺點不放，你所看到的自己和別人才會更好，更快樂。　　

8.說教　　其實批評還有一個兄弟，就是說教。他們的共同特點就是肆意評論人。當你對人說教時，別人只是在聽，並沒有聽進去。這種悲哀的交流，不會帶你給一絲快樂。

9.徘徊　　過去的經歷，可以讓我們從中汲取經驗教訓，但不要徘徊不前，消磨了當下的快樂和未來的憧憬。　　

10.恐懼　　對於未知、變化、無能為力、別人的看法，我們多少都有恐懼，因此停滯不前。但時間會流逝，夢想也會。因此千萬別讓恐懼擋住了前進的道路，今天是你所擁有最寶貴的財富，一切從今天開始吧！

20130519 22:00   代價
經過了上星期六的失常狀態後，正在擔心身體又不知出了什麼問題，幸好過去的星期三晚的狀態又回復正常了，其實若以平日晚上的狀態比較，不只是回復正常，而是回復到最佳狀態呢！
承接這個最佳狀態，到了昨天中午的又濕又熱的天氣，正好可以考驗自己，其實在這種天氣下不停游，可以說是一種意志的磨練，最終成績也很不錯呢！不過游完後也要付出代價，就是比平時更累，有點脫水的感覺呢！

晚上跟“肥仔”去看了《北方的金絲雀》，戲中講述學生時代的歌詠情節，令我不禁想起《仙樂飄飄處處聞》，都是清脆的歌聲配合著優美的景色。

然而電影主線是講述20年前那宗糾結各人多年的意外所發生的真相，幸好多年後靠發生在其中一人身上的悲劇而令到當年意外的真相水落石出，不過各人已背負了當年沒有及時說出心底話的代價了。
電影介紹的最後一句：「劇情在結尾推向感人肺腑的高潮」，“肥仔”也因感同身受而看得熱淚盈眶呢！

說起代價，今天就是因為沒有多溝通，就要付上浪費時間聽了一堆廢話。
今午剛好要外出買東西，那便順路跟一位剛談了不久的網友見面，原來他是來自北京的，談天時他一邊說著香港同志有多現實，但是他又一邊說到要對方要有什麼身型，也要對方有什麼背景，希望對方跟他一樣是曾接受外國教育的，這樣便會價值觀相近，那刻我差點便忍不住衝口而出，如果兩個人都是曾接受外國教育的，但是一個保守專一，一個人盡可伴，難道這也是價值觀相近？其實價值觀是否相近從來也只能從了解的過程中才得知的。
好不容易才「逃脫」了，走在悶熱的街頭不禁在想，又看看他如何不現實到我不是他喜歡的類型，仍會繼續跟我談天吧！哈哈！不過我想還是算了吧！同志還是會貫徹現實的。
然而不時令我笑翻了肚的，就是那種高調揮舞著友好旗幟說要認識朋友，但旗幟背後卻寫滿了多如繁星的條件，可以說這個跟掛羊頭買狗肉有著異曲同工之妙，哈哈！



20130511 23:00   過山車的狀態
偏頭痛了接近一星期，昨晚終於按捺不住去看醫生了。
今天中午又再一次在吃藥下跳進水中，不過不知是不是藥物的影響，精神萎靡，手腳乏力，表現完全失常，好像是剛學懂游泳似的，不同的只是沒有遇溺而已，好不容易才完成800米自由泳及500米蛙泳，完成時間可以用慘不忍睹來形容，狀態猶如過山車似的。

晚上跟肥仔看了從《魔驅人2》兩套中左選右選下才決定看的《夜凶》，看完後就算還沒看《魔》片已大概可以肯定是沒有選錯了。

之前看這套電影的故事大鋼也非常簡潔，故作神秘的，原來內容是講述外星人的。整體氣氛營造不錯，不需什麼配樂已夠驚嚇了。到了末段，父親購買散彈槍勇抗外星人，為何母親只在廚房隨便拾起一把刀來保護兒子？至少要添置一把開山刀吧！哈哈！



20130508 22:00   《女朋友 男朋友》
之前到台灣旅遊時，終於在當地買到了《女朋友 男朋友》(萬金油、楊雅喆)的小說。然而為什麼香港各大小書店很快已買不到這本小說？而且他們也回覆很難或不會再購入，這些到現在也是一個謎…

最近也終於看完了這本小說，一如早知的小說中是以陳忠良作為第一身書寫的，而且書中也交代了很多在電影中沒有交代或沒有提及的情節，令到整個故事性更加完整更加豐富。
書中著墨最多的仍然是王心仁與林美寶拖拖拉拉、藕斷絲連、欲斷難斷的畸形戀情，反而林美寶對陳忠良的愛意則淡得似有還無似的。
在廣場上陳忠良與軍人暗處的一幕也不像電影中的兩人激吻後才被軍人制伏那麼予人幻想空間，跟電影不同的是，陳忠良的手還沒碰到那軍人，已被狠狠的制伏了。
有關陳忠良的同志心路歷程，在書中也有深刻的刻劃。
書中最精警的而又在電影中沒有出現的一句：「出門前自己打一槍，才不會玩得下賤。」
我不禁疑惑，這句說話對於現今的同志起到多少作用？在這個精蟲衝腦的年代，最重要是將賤精噴射殆盡，又有幾多同志還會理會是否下賤？
書中又說到：「打了一槍，慾望走了，就自由了。」
真的是打了一槍便自由嗎？慾望去了又來，說穿了這只是一個不息的循環而已。

最近在拍賣網上以一個超值價錢買到了兩張來自 4AD 廠牌的宣傳專輯，都是非賣品。

特別是 Cocteau Twins 那張宣傳專輯，當中收錄了一些從未收錄在其大碟及單曲碟內的歌曲，非常有收藏價值呢！



20130505 22:00   逆轉的延續
昨天中午跳進水中前，不知哪來的決心及信心，跟自己說誓要再造一次2000米自由泳。在水中游過了1000米後，體力開始下降了，不過在水中想到，既然說誓要，那便要撐下去吧！之後到1500米時是最困難的，差點便想放棄呢！幸好那種倔強意志又再驅使我游下去了，最終再一次造出2000米自由泳，這是一星期內的第二次呢！真的振奮萬分！再算一下，更振奮的是這星期共游了7800米自由泳呢！雖然跟兩年前所造出的一星期紀錄9000米還有一段距離，不過年長了兩年，這個成績已很不錯吧！而且游泳衝刺期剛開始了一個月，還有很多時間呢！

這兩天跟“肥仔”看了兩套跟預期有點落差的電影：
第一套是有點期望的《非常大婚》，還以為星光熠熠，笑料百出，怎知只是一套星光將笑料掩沒的電影。

第二套是沒什麼期望的《鐵甲奇俠3》，還記得第二集的眼花撩亂，不過今集的感覺比上一集好了一點，至少不會看到頭昏腦脹吧！再加上又是2D及早場的關係，感覺更值回票價呢！哈哈！




20130502 22:00   逆轉
昨天中午跳進水中，邊游邊在想，以現時的狀態，應該仍只能維持在1200米自由泳吧？快到1200米的時候，體力已疲憊不堪，不過心中卻突然有一種希望有所突破的衝動，或許就是這一份衝動便驅使我繼續游下去了。快到1500米的時候，原來也想停下來了，不過在水中反問著自己：「我真的甘心就這樣停下來嗎？」，就是這種倔強的精神意志，令我撐下去，最終完成本年度第一個2000米自由泳，雖然累透了卻令我心中振奮不已，希望這種倔強的精神意志及好成績陸續有來吧！
今天因時間不足關係，沒打算在距離上能造出什麼好成績，跳進水中那刻只剩下半小時多一點游泳館便關門了，我想只好快快的游吧！就是這種限時的壓力下，雙手雙腿更奮力的擺動，最終竟以一個絕佳時間完成1000米自由泳呢！
數天前還在困擾著，是否年紀大了，狀態就只能回復八成？這兩天卻在意料之外的來了一個大逆轉！其實以過去半年的身體狀況及在水中的狀態，之前真的不敢寄予厚望，現在不禁令我想起一句我很喜歡的歌詞：I can make it through the rain.

http://onefunnyjoke.com/%E6%83%A1%E6%90%9E/%E5%95%BE%E5%92%AA%EF%BC%81%E5%96%AC%E6%B2%BB%E7%AB%B9%E4%BA%95%E5%B0%8D%E5%8F%8D%E5%90%8C%E4%BA%BA%E5%A3%AB%E7%9A%84%E6%90%9E%E7%AC%91%E5%9B%9E%E6%87%89/

Must give my bestie due credit for inspiring me to blog about 'whores'. Before anyone who read this blog started to jump due to such a derogatory term mentioned here, continue the reading first. 

In our small little whatsapp group chat, we were talking about our interests and the varied, rather diversified, emphasis on different things. Afterall, each individual in the group carry a different personality. Interestingly, we get along pretty well in our small clique, despite the differences. The singles...ok...THE SINGLE...that's me...and the couples...laffs. 

We have the Sephora whore, whom i shall mention first since she's my bestie and the reason why i even blogged about such topic! She is like this beauty product guru cum housewifey material that we can turn to for advice. Perhaps if there's a Masters Degree for beauty stuff or household chores, she will be in the Dean's list am sure. Then her lifetime partner is termed the Stationery whore, since she can spend ages in a stationery shop! It will take muscled men to tear the Stationery whore from the pens and notebooks. I thought she's Property whore but my bestie begged to differ. 

Next up is the Shirt whore, who tailors all her shirts and i have seen some of them before. Handsome! All tucked in. Haha. Her lifetime partner is called the Techie whore since she's just so good at any tech gadgets and is abreast of all the latest advances. I turned to her for techie needs.

Finally we have the Watch whore. Oh this one, gosh, the watches under her collection are just so amazing. She's like Stationery whore. Need a bulldozer, for her, to tear her away from the window displays of those watches along Orchard Road. Her gf has yet to be termed. Haha.

And for me...haha...i am a Hotel and Travel whore. I love traveling and i immerse myself in the various hotel experiences. I can just stay in a hotel for 3 days and 2 nights, without doing much. Chillaxing kinda stance. That's how slack i can be.

I find myself knowing more about each one of them day by day. Take for instance, Sephora whore, is such an efficient worker. She will make such an outstanding personal assistant. She gets the bookings all done at the mere mention of the events few minutes ago. And...she even told me to make a list of household items PLUS household chores that I MUST GET AND DO respectively when i move into my own apartment in the not so long future. Haha.

Also, when Shirt whore goes into this serious mode and inject her pearls of wisdom into the group chat, i will be so impressed. Never see that side of her in the more than 7 years of friendship! 

From 2 friends, become 5. Thanks guys for the wonderful friendship!

Muacks!

http://belarr.com/bakercat/

This is the light at the end of the tunnel for me

"The Tao says that we should meet grief with the vibration of courage…not putting on a brave face, but true courage: the courage to let go of what we know, let go of what we have, the courage to enter The Unknown….to trust that Higher Consciousness holds us and will take us where we need to go."

"Ultimately, who or what are we committed to? Are we simply committed to another human being? Or are we committed to something higher, to the Divine, to Highest Consciousness? If spiritual evolution is our commitment then it become clear that we can be in partnership so long as that partnership assists us on this journey… and when the time comes that the relationship no longer aligns with this path, it is time to give thanks and journey on alone."

http://shashisolluna.com/2013/05/18/the-natural-completion-of-a-relationship/

Think twice before entering my world of thoughts.  It’s dark and bittersweet, like the world of Harry Porter.

recently i start be able to use internet at work that make me happy and time past quicker while waiting for customers. im a barber. and good to have Fridae to browse for friends. thanks really entertaining! Auckland is quiet city thou biggest city in New Zealand. currently i havent met any gay friend that i have chemistry on, so im pretty lonely inwardly. and i know who are not lonely, at times i guess, even has partner cant be lonely too. so always nice to meet more friends to broaden horizon. sting looking... finger cross !

LGBT inclusive language is important. 

"And that’s what I’m asking all of you to do: Keep setting an example for what it means to be a man. Be the best husband to your wife, or you’re your boyfriend, or your partner. Be the best father you can be to your children. Because nothing is more important." --President Obama

Life is too short to care about being judged. 

There is no lack of judgmental people in our daily life.  I don't need more in my personal life.  Anyone who judges, feel free to take her leave.

奇怪的是，不知为什么，在我小的时候，我极力装得象个大人；而当我已经不再是小孩的时候，我又希望象个孩子。

不懂得适可而止的人，不会有长久的安乐。放下亦不是失去，而是为了更好的收获。

幸福和神明差不多，只存于相信它的人心中。

热情中的冷静让人清醒，冷静中的热情使人执着。

快乐人生无需雕琢，只需踏踏实实做事，简简单单做人。