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蔡依林 不一樣又怎樣

lsyysl - 1 hour ago

snowventurer

Closure for myself.. Trying... And struggling..

snowventurer - 7 hours ago

Now I recall.. U always say "I love u but...." Let me complete the back part cos I only realise it now.. And that would be " but I'm not in love with u"

Ling1977

好文共赏:傲慢.自卑.盲──臺北的新加坡情結(潘婉明)

Ling1977 - 10 hours ago

这是一篇好文。台湾的确相当文明和令人感到舒服,具备许多值得其他亚洲国家学习的地方,实在无需妄自菲薄。

傲慢.自卑.盲──臺北的新加坡情結
December 18, 2014

【文/潘婉明】

臺灣的九合一選舉在上個月底落幕,選後綠色版圖增加不少,不過整體選舉結果並沒有太出乎意料,即便是備受觸目的臺北市長選戰,雖熱鬧擾攘,也徒有話題,沒有驚喜。

臺北市是資源豐裕的首善之地,其市長職往往是入主總統府的前哨站,然本屆市長選舉的主要競逐者,都是幾無從政資歷的「政治素人」,既有強勢空降的官二代,又有拒不入黨的墨綠醫師,兩人之間甚至有過醫病關係,這本身就話題十足。

儘管柯文哲宣稱是非藍非綠的白色勢力,但綠營從最初的「禮讓」到一路力挺,這場選戰顯然沒有超出藍綠框架。國民黨敗選固然值得誌慶,但在造神之下高票當選的無黨籍名醫,其言論、人格特質及菁英姿態,卻也很令人感到不安。果不其然,選後三天自稱「超越藍綠」的柯文哲接受電台專訪時,就沒頭沒腦地發表了「八年內超越新加坡」的宏願。(同日接受《自由時報》專訪時,更忘形地重申「八年內『幹掉』」新加坡」。)

此話一出,引起許多有新加坡經驗人士「吐糟」,列舉臺北更優越於新加坡的種種,以及臺北不宜借鏡新加坡的理由,其中也不乏譏嘲文,假設臺北「超越」了新加坡之後所發生的變貌和倒退。而新加坡方面則普遍冷回應,展現出自信,或許也有不屑。

「超越新加坡」並不是甚麼新論。過去臺灣政客及媒體經常提問或疾呼:「新加坡可以爲什麽臺灣不可以?」這個問題背後有極其複雜的情結。臺灣一度是「四小龍」之首,經歷了80年代的經濟起飛,對自己在區域內立下成功的典範深感自豪,也建立起自信和驕傲,可「錢淹腳目」的美景轉眼雲煙,旋即落後於其他「小龍們」,反差之大,讓許多人不及反應,既困惑又挫折。

但為甚麼是新加坡?我們很少聽到臺灣發表超越日韓或香港的豪語,卻對新加坡有獨特的執著,經常以新加坡為假想敵,又想以之為師。臺灣對新加坡的認識其實很有限,大致知道它是由華人治理的國際化都會,小國寡民、繁華富庶、環境清潔、治安良好等旅行印象,但更多的「認識」,如強人政治、一黨獨大、行政清廉、效率高超、待遇從優等,則拜不肖學者與「哈新」名嘴宣傳之賜,成為政論節目的基本見解.

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Ling1977

好文共赏:乡土情浓下的“爱国”难题(王国璋)

Ling1977 - 10 hours ago

身份与国家认同本来就是很主观的事,也很复杂,不能一刀切。另外,政府并不等同于国家,痛恨腐败政府并不意味着也必须痛恨自己的国家。

乡土情浓下的“爱国”难题

今日 早晨7点25分

作者:王国璋

【时政】南望

中国崛起,马来西亚华人还爱国不?

国家认同恒是这个国度里的大哉问,华社里的中文社群尤受困扰。由国家独立前后的华侨到华人,几代马华公民艰难地试图证明自己“爱国”,却总有马来同胞不信服:第一代华人难舍中国情,可以理解;第三、四代了还跟大中华地区纠缠不清,什么意思?

有时候,你确实很难耸耸肩无视对方质疑。马六甲市以南,你可能只爱看新加坡的华语电视频道;马六甲市以北,你或许沉迷Astro的中港台节目。你对新加坡国策、台湾政治生态、香港占领运动或浙江卫视的《中国好声音》津津乐道;你在脸书、微信或中文的网上论坛里和国内外华裔友人瞎扯,分享大中华媒体为你筛选评议过的大小讯息。但与此同时,你可能老是认不清多数马来部长的嘴脸。反正没差。

又,你很可能期待移民。世界银行2011年有关马来西亚人才外流(brain drain)的专题报告,就保守估计过长居海外的马来西亚公民,2010年时高达一百万人,且三十年来增长近三倍之多。这当中57%落户新加坡,而他们几近九成是华人。

土生土长的马华第三代,多成长于马、中两地隔绝的冷战时代;第四代则经历了中国经济的高速奋起。无论如何,两代人都因为经商、就业或留学,与大中华各地互动愈繁。他们的中国情怀,与上两个世代有没什么大小差异?

认同是很主观的事,本来就难以捉摸。1985年王赓武总结东南亚华人认同问题时,认为可分国家、族群、阶级、文化这四方面的认同来谈,大趋势则是东南亚华人多已在政治上认同居留国度。1999再论认同,他则坦承问题实无法和中国因素切割,今日犹是。理论上,政治或文化认同的对象既可以由甲至乙,当然也可以是由乙复甲或由乙至丙,并非什么神圣不可逆转的进程。

他们对大马存有情感

部分出于这样的考察兴趣,今年10月至今,有幸和旅居上海及香港的十数位马来西亚华裔专才及留学生作深入访谈,留意到几点有趣现象。首先,是众人普遍深怀的浓郁乡情。受访者的“马来西亚人”身分意识,绝大部分源自他对自己成长的那片土地的真实情感、对乡里亲朋戚友的眷恋,以及对国内民情食物等的缅怀。换句话说,他们对马来西亚的情感无庸置疑。

会计经理C先生,已经在上海和中国各地待了超过10年,却说他只在返马时,才真正感觉自在(feel comfortable)。在上海的日子,总希望遇见同乡,马来人印度人都好,只要来自国内,见面互道一声“apa khabar?”就倍感亲切。C先生对上海近年来的社会、制度发展非常肯定,但自谓对上海和中国还是没认同感,甚至坦承面对中国人时,他仍有某种程度的优越感。

T小姐留学香港,九零后,对其大学的学习环境与教学品质相当满意,但言谈间爱提家乡事,也自承对老家乡里情感深厚。香港的粤文化氛围并未让她有归属感,与香港本地学生相处,也始终感觉有些隔阂。结果人在校园,主要还是和那一小撮“自家人”来往。H先生留学上海,同样是九零后,极享受上海这大城市所提供的无尽商业机会,并已打定主意毕业后留沪工作。不过面对中国同学,H先生从来喜欢强调自己与众不同的马来西亚人身分,而非突出他与众一致的华人身分。

普遍“逐机会而居”

其次,值得注意的还有这种自然纯朴的乡情,似与个人在一地一镇的具体生活圈子相契,却未必会延伸至国家认同的高度。我的意思是:乡土情与国家/政治认同的关联并不明显,受访者固然爱乡,却普遍“逐机会而居”,并无强烈的报国情怀。但他们倒也未惑于大中华的政治召唤,只是务实地为自己和家人寻觅更合适的安身之处。马来西亚可以离开,上海、香港也是。

M小姐在香港工作5年后,怀着对乡土、家人的眷恋,曾试图返国觅职定居。岂料返马后惊觉她已无法再忍受国内体制上的种种闭塞、箝制,感觉窒息,没多久就再回港工作,这回且特意住满7年谋得香港永久居留权。不过香港也没留得住她,M小姐现已动念再转往新加坡或台湾工作。

L小姐原留学台湾,在台资企业派驻越南工作时认识留日的中国丈夫,待过日本,目前已随丈夫回上海定居,在日资企业上班。L小姐的哥哥姐姐弟弟都已是新加坡公民或永久居民,本身没想过在台湾落地生根,对上海也还是没深厚情感,始终觉得与中国人的文化差异甚大。但她并不排斥将来再与家人回日本“永住”。

反思爱国与国家初衷

国家认同问题当然不是我目前的十数个访谈案例可以概括,遑论归纳分析。理论探讨方面,更可以从东、西方集体和个人主义的差异(先有国才有家vs.每一位公民都是国家主体)、爱国与爱政权之辨,一路谈到民族国家之作为“想象的共同体”(imagined communities),该如何想象及建构等。但我想核心之问,还在人类社会建构国家的原始目的,以及伴随而来的“爱国是不是一种义务?”的反思。

由原始聚落至部族社会再进一步发展至现代国家,人类图的主要是集体生活比个体独立生存更能提供安全保障与其他实惠。集体越复杂,精细分工的管治机构就越不可或缺,遂有国家政权。而理想的政权形态,则是统治者权力来自多数国民的授权及认可,否则就缺乏正当性。在此前题上,如果我们还能进一步跳脱民族国家的意识形态桎梏,不认为什么民族就该从属于什么国家(如日本人就该是日本国民),那各国的存在,理论上确实可以视为自由市场,良禽(国民)择木而栖,并无不妥。简言之,以自由主义观点来看,国家并没要求国民无条件爱国的理据,爱国本不该是种义务。

恰恰相反,国家要努力吸引本国国民留下、他国国民移入;国家要营造良好的制度与生活环境,让国民有归属感。基础皆备,才有条件去谈国民对国家的无私奉献。美国前总统肯尼迪(John F. Kennedy)那句“莫问国家能为你做什么,问问你能为国家做点什么”的名言,虽隽永动听,却不符美国自由主义传统。倒过来问,或许才更合适。

其次,如何爱国?感性及仪式性的爱国活动,如学校升旗典礼、唱国歌、国庆日高悬国旗或造个世界最长的ketupat自得其乐等,既虚也流于形式,更不无诱导国民盲目爱国的风险。以批判的眼光看国情、鞭策社会进步,因理念相契而认同国家的相关体制等,才是经理性反刍后的爱国之道,也才能细水长流、历久弥坚。

中国因素未构成影响

专才与留学生因身怀专技,得以游走各地居留工作,但这不意味着他们都享受这种流离状态。马华第三、四代的乡土认同应无疑义,不在中国,而在马来西亚。至于“爱不爱国”,那就端赖你从哪个角度理解。流离于台湾、日本、中国三地多年的L小姐就提到,每逢国际运动赛事,日本队只要对上其他国家,包括中国,她都希望日本赢。唯一的例外,是当日本队碰上马来西亚时(例如今年的汤姆斯杯羽球决赛),她会希望马来西亚胜出。反正马来西亚队若和他国对战,她一贯心向马来西亚。L小姐至今仍自视为马来西亚人,说她认同这块土地上的人民、社会,但对政府很有保留。2013年全国大选后她更悲观,总觉得已经没办法改变什么。

这批专才如今为何“逐机会而居”?老爱责人不爱国的当朝政治人物,不妨想想到底责在何方。中国因素至少到目前为止,似还不构成影响马华政治与文化认同的外部要素。归属感是国家认同的关键之一,但归属感终究不能像沙滩上种花,根柢不固,自然无法持久。


延伸阅读:

Wang, Gungwu. 1988. ‘The Study of Chinese Identities in Southeast Asia’, in J.W. Cushman & Wang Gungwu. (eds.), Changing Identities of the Southeast Asian Chinese since World War II, pp. 1-21. Hong Kong: Hong Kong University Press.

王赓武。 2002。〈再论海外华人的身分认同〉,载于刘宏、黄坚立主编,《海外华人硏究的大视野与新方向:王赓武教授论文选》,页97-116。River Edge, NJ:八方文化企业公司。


王国璋 槟州北海人,现任职于香港中文大学未来城市研究所。

 

文章来源:《当今大马》 http://www.malaysiakini.com/columns/283931

AshleyJo

My Laws of Attraction

AshleyJo - 22 hours ago

 

Contrary to the assumptions of even those close to me, physical attributes are not part of my laws of attraction. I'm not as shallow as i'm being thought of and despite being a higly visual person, what's beneath the surface are truly the things that attract and endear me to someone.

A person with Positive Vibes is a big winner in getting (and retaining) my attention. She would be one who is able to see beauty & goodness in ppl and situations, with the ability to motivate the ppl with whom she interacts. It's hard not to be attracted to someone who is a Motivator because of her positive outlook. I like someone who has as much faith as me in the humankind.

Being Compassionate aligns the person with me on one of my highly-regarded values. Being loved by someone with compassion endears my heart to her and makees me want to love her without restraint because her big heart of kindness so deserves it. I find it very enticing to date someone like that, someone who can feel for strangers because of their plight, be it sickness or poverty.

Sensitivity is a virtue which i find alluring because someone who has an acute sense of emotive awareness for others makes me feel pampered and taken care of. It gives my heart a tenderness that would only serve to do away caution and enable me to trust her with my feelings.

I have low tolerance for insincere ppl. Which conversely makes Sincerity in a person highly appealing to me. 

The last Law may seem surprising considering its apparent insignificance to most ppl. Politeness. I really appreciate someone who is polite because rude ppl are my No.1 turn-off. A polite person by nature is also someone who will respect her partner and show appreciation more likely than not. 

That much said, Laws are not cast in stone. Life is a mystery. So is Love. 

 

- lucia

snowventurer

我真的

snowventurer - 22 hours ago

这首歌,完全说出了我此时此刻的心情。

 

窗外阴天了音乐低声了
我的心开始想你了
灯光也暗了音乐低声了
口中的棉花糖也融化了
窗外阴天了人是无聊了
我的心开始想你了
电话响起了你要说话了
还以为你心里对我又想念了
怎麽你声音变得冷淡了
是你变了是你变了
灯光熄灭了音乐静止了
滴下的眼泪已停不住了
天下起雨了人是不快乐
我的心真的受伤了

oudtshoorn

Why do I like you

oudtshoorn - 1 day ago

Why do I like you?  I don't have an answer for that, but I guess it's just the vibes you gave me,  the smiles you put on my face, the laughs I get from talking to you, and just the fact that you can make me think of you even if we are not talking at that moment.  I honestly cannot say that there's an answer for that,  but I will say that you are the only reason that I am happy each and every day.

ling87

A short story - Part V

ling87 - 1 day ago

What happened to a friend.


On one side they laugh and insult her, on another side she rush down to visit? WTF. How does her love work?


When she’s released, she mail order chicken essence fish essence all sorts of essence? Finally, because of her love, she turn up at her door?


Is this the behaviour of someone who doesn’t want to hurt their jealousy, anger and mental disruption girlfriend? Or is this the behaviour of someone who do not want their ex back?

 


Roku

时间~感情~小三

Roku - 1 day ago

时间。。 能淡化一切。。平复一切。。。

时间。。能淡化感情。。平复伤痛。。。

时间。。是感情的小三。。。

Pu_erile

181214 - the flyoff.

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

This morning, this idiot woke up at 6.30am and dashed off to the airport.  He reaches the airport at an hour later but still cannot find Minmin anyway.  He sat down and waited till 10plus before going to order the food for X'mas.  He had a good laugh on himself while relating to the dramas he watched.

He is glad that until now Minmin is texting him to chat about HK and share some toy finds.

Loved...

Pu_erile

171214 - Dim Sum dollies, oh no....

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

He texted to call off Dim Sum Dollies, I had a good day finishing up chores and preparing for next year's work.  

Asked him whether I can join him for breakfast before he fly off but he reminded me that we are no longer a couple.

Well... my love for you is real.  That is enough.  So long, you don't shut me down.

Pu_erile

161214 My virgin cookoff - Penguin bento

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

Had a late lunch that day when my inner voice decide to have a cook off.  I was unsure at first because I am not sure whether Minmin is coming for pump that night.  I follow my heart anyway.

While waiting for the rice to cool off, as I was displaying Chunli (nanoblock) into my chiller, her foot fell into the crevices.  To my horror, it has worms, eggs, spiders and flying insects.  On top of the creepy crawlies, it is feeled with some rotten crust of food.  I managed to overcome my fear and clean it off.  

Rushed off to finish the penguin look and glad I did.

After pump, we chatted and teased about the bonus and HK trip.  He gave everyone muffins, generous as usual, and I wasn't expecting one as he wasn't passing it to me to choose, when I walked him, he gave me one and I asked for another one knowing that I can save 2 days of breakfast since my bonus took some time.

Before I alight, I passed him the bento set I made and told him it was my first time.  Yes I made it with love.  I didn't expect him to try it but he told me he did, even though he didn't finish everything.  I even have to use the seaweed he bought from his BKK trip for the bento.  It is just an ordinary lunch box with 2 lumps of rice made to look like penguin.  But it has all my love and effort in it.

He thinks they looked like penguins and I think my job's done.  Thank you for trying.

Pu_erile

151214 The Exodus and iPhone 6.

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

We went AMK Hub yesterday and what luck, 128GB iPhone 6 in Gold.  That's what Minmin likes (actually we both liked black but after awhile he decided to take Gold).  However, it is closing hours for Singtel.  So, I asked him whether I can keep him company while queuing for the iPhone 6 tomorrow.  He agreed.

So as usual, he grumbled abit when I was on my way because of the queue.  We sat relaxingly playing tsum tsum at a nearby coffeeshop watching the queue number's increment.  I enjoyed watching him.  He is so cute when he is playing game.  I forgotten that.

We managed to get Minmin's account switched as main from his mom.  Of course, he got the phone.

Went to have dessert and helped him unwrapped his iPhone 6, put on tempered glass and lend him my silicon cover.  Oh boy, he is a happy man now.

I thought that's the end of the meet up.  Surprisingly, he agreed to go for a movie.  So we watched Exodus.  Quite an impressive show about inner voices and science.  Less of the Almighty God magic and miracles.  We thought that Ed will join us but he didn't so I got ourselves couple seats - ting ting ting... yes couple seats.  I pretended to be holding his hands throughout the show.  Yes, I'm a dreamer.

We walked around Orchard until around 7pm where he left for RPM.  I continued to look for his shoes.  Then I went home.  I texted him about the Fujikoh's robot featuring Doraemon.  Hopefully, one day I can help to assemble the robot.

Finally completed the assembly part of his birthday present.  That means I can trim my nails.  I continued to finish Chunli, the nanoblock he bought for me.  

Pu_erile

141214 The voice

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

The little voice spoke again and this time I heard him.  Quickly I texted Minmin saying that I'm joining RPM class.  I quickly prepared.  Don't ask me why.  I'm glad I did.  Minmin was alone in class that day.  I was there almost late.  He was already cycling and warming up his body.  I wanted to take the bike beside his but was told by him that it is spoilt, so I took the one behind him.  Was kinda lost on setting up and lucky the kind angel (I know it is part of his job) , CH, came to the rescue.  Talked about a cardio rush.  I enjoyed it very much if not for the fact that I'm reserving energy for pump later.

Ate Red Mango, sat with him, joked with the company.  Had an enjoyable pump with his exchanging glances with Ian and me (mine was secretive glances until he decides to show off his weights).  Asked him his plans after pump and this time round he said, "oh I am having dinner with Ian and bf, you can join us if you want to."  I was happy, it was the first time after what happened, I am included.

Poor Ian drove a long way to Orchard then to Macpherson and then back to Chinatown again.  He is so in love with his man.  Envy.  Ended up, Ian, Minmin and I ate dinner together.  Ian's bf have a X'mas style family gathering thus the driving spin.  As suggested by Ian, we went ahead to one of the PRC restaurant serving super spicy numbing fish.  We challenged the 'medium hot' and conquered it.  Pricey.  $33 each.  I admit I went toilet to puke because I really ate too much.  We had dessert.  I thought Minmin won't be keen to meet up with Ed after that, even to Ian's amazement (who happens to be Minmin's knight throughout our incident), he did.

We parted ways with Ian (although I would like him to come and see our house especially with Minmin around).  Went to Tiong Bahru and waited for Ed to pick us up.  We went for a drink at AMK hub before going home.  Really thankful towards Ed.  I'm so glad to have him as my noisy brother.

Pu_erile

131214 The family gathering

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

Had the family gathering on that day. Was basically lazing around and preparing for the gathering but learning to listen to my heart.  I'm so fortunate and I always didn't realise that until my sisters know about my depression and came over to show support.  It was the best dinner I ever had beside the reunion dinner.  Why?  Because there's love all around.  My 2nd sis came with her husband, her husband liked my house very much, he even gave me tips on how to maintain my carpentry.  I'm really thankful.

I was about to cry when I saw him getting too tired and had a fit.  Saw my sister hugging him and coaxing with gentle words.  That's the thick and thin together, and perhaps the "together till us part".  My bro-in-law was very snobbish last time, but he has changed.  I saw their love, and while typing this out, my tears are flowing.  ever since then, I added on a prayer to GuanYin Ma that I hope they will overcome this together.  

My nephew explored the house like a new playground for him.  My 3rd sis and husband was really supportive and they ordered the food for all of us.  We ended glued to the super large tv (thanks to Minmin) watching Cafe.Waiting.Love Almost cried seeing the cafe scene and the wilful girl.  Felt connected to the scene.  Although Dad wasn't with us but Mom came and was really supportive.  Dad even bought jackfruit (yes, I only eat the jackfruit Dad chose for me, because he always know how to pick the nice ones for me).  I am so blessed.  Now I realised it all.

I had health, but because of stress and negativity, I piled up blood pressure and heart issue.  I had love, I pushed away the love of my life.  I had company, I chose to shut one by one down when they weren't given me any attention or time.  I didn't realise I was so blessed until I lose it all.  Now I know how blessed I am.

Pu_erile

121214 A magical afternoon.

Pu_erile - 1 day ago

I began with my chores in the morning as usual.  Just after I decided to finally have lunch, which means I have to get out of my comfort zone, I received a message at about 1pm plus.

Minmin texted me asking me to go cafe as a friend.  I was beyond estacy.  He asked me to go to this Fabulous Baker Boys, meeting up at Kinokuniya at about 3.30pm.  I went out early but not so early because he mentioned he wanted to run some errands.  I don't want him to feel my excitement.  He also said he wanted to go Mapletree Biz City for gym.  I didn't know who is the GX instructor but I asked to follow anyway.

We meet up at Kino as stated.  There he was, cladded in Le Petite Prince (a very nice t-shirt but too costly for me to buy then, plus we agreed that it was a nice design) with his black Agnes b. cap.  He looked so cute in them.  I don't know he purposely dressed up for the occasion or the errands before, I am thankful that he dressed up and meet up with me.

We shopped around at Kino on our own pace for awhile before going to Fabulous.  Fabulous beside, being fabulous, was abit loud and noisy due to a party.  The guys were all very friendly but I was quite defensive because I was admiring the cakes and was suddenly asked whether he can help us.  Some of us like to take our time to read the little cards written there and of course, for Minmin, taking pictures.

We realised we were actually the lucky ones to have not been rejected for seating.  They were about to close to rest for an hour at 5pm.  I explained to Minmin that I didn't buy anything (that's from yesterday SMS because I kinda missed him after not seeing him for awhile and knowing that he is going to HK soon), gave him the selfie stick hoping that it will be useful in HK and an adaptor that turns any micro usb into a 16-pin lightning plug.  Minmin, I lied about the lightning plug, if you ever read this.  It was bought for you, it wasn't free.

We walked along Fort Canning Hill, going to Funan Centre.  I'm glad I suggested that, because he managed to buy a box of nano danbos.  I liked Danbo because it represent first love and innocence.  I gave the original one to him during one of the X'mas (I think).  I'm glad it stayed as something he likes.  

Then we went to buy something for Gage.  Then, I realised who is the GX instructor for today.   He showed me where he bought the reindeer cookies from (sorry dear, I bought the iPhone 6 and barely can feed off that time, much less to buy one of my own, although I would love the gingerbread you've been buying for the last 2 years) and we bought a X'mas fruit cake for Gage, all beautifully wrapped.

We were still early for the class so we decided to roam around Vivocity.  He was so eagered to go to the Superdry store but was disappointed with the designs.  I liked the design he chose but thinking that it is just a copycat version of what our few friends had, I hoped he think twice (and actually, bought one very nice one for him for his 30th birthday).  He's been talking about bags for sometime.  I hope he can find one that he likes since he is in HK while I am typing this.

We went to Toy R Us and with his luck, I got a gachapon I liked.  We headed off to Mapletree.  

Inside the changing room, we saw Gage, so I passed the gift to him straightaway.  He was delighted.  Minmin and Gage was chatting while I was changing on the other side (the usual place, yes, I have usual corners to go based on different gyms).  The only thing I noticed was Minmin looking at me while Gage teased him and Gage mentioned why Minmin was looking at me.  We had a nice pump where I witness his vast improvement especially on his lower limbs.

Minmin wanted to get JY and Ed out, so I texted Ed during class.  Ed was excited that it was Minmin's idea to meet up and go to To-gather cafe.  However, JY couldn't join us and so I suggested to Gage we should all go together instead.

It was fun connecting to Gage and of him.  I remembered I was a bit put off by Gage when he hugged Minmin.  But after losing Minmin, I realised that it doesn't matter so long Minmin didn't reciprocate.  I think he was put off too looking as him touching and brushing off his shoulder.

We sent Gage off before we went out for a drink.  Although the conversation was badly steered, I'm glad it happened.  Cos I realised I changed.  We had a lot of eye contacts while in the conversation because we know each other too well.  I'm so happy to see him.  I'm thankful that Gage insist on sitting on the front seat leaving the 2 of us at the back seat and I can see him falling asleep comfortably and safely. 

Zee_R

My Wish...

Zee_R - 1 day ago

If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine...
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you...

@A💜

lostknight

Santa Claus is coming to town.

lostknight - 1 day ago

Not.

Parents tell their children that lying is bad. But are compulsive liars themselves.

Is Santa Claus real? No. 

Then why is it acceptable to instill false beliefs in order to get the behaviour you desire?

As long it's for the better, and not worse, it's ok to make people believe in things that aren't real?

Does that mean if someone asked for my opinion if she is fat, but isn't, i should say yes? Because that may lead to healthier eating habits and lifetstyle that may prolong her life? 

At the end of the day, regardless of Santa is real or not, children will still get presents anyway. So false beliefs about Santa are pointless.

There are all sorts of things we are told are bad and we shouldn't do. However, it becomes acceptable when the masses are doing it too.

Gdnite

Gdnite - 1 day ago

有如焦头烂额 !!!

snowventurer

厌倦

snowventurer - 1 day ago

也许7年对你来说太久了,你对我感到厌倦了。

我该走了。勉强也没用。

我要的是一生一世,你要的我已经不知道是什么了。

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